- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
My husband wasn’t all that “excited” about it either. He can’t wear it during the week because of his job, and only wears it on weekends if he remembers (or I remind him!).
I would just explain to him that it’s important to you that he has a ring he will actually want to wear, and hopefully he’ll come around. But, I wouldn’t take it too seriously either, as men are just weird sometimes
I totally understand that you’d be upset – I definitely was – but I would ask your Fiance directly what’s bugging him about the ring. I would have never guessed why my Fiance wasn’t too pleased, but it turned out to be a simple thing that was fixable.
am I the only one here that is perfectly fine with Fiance not wearing his rings. He works with his hands (technician) and it would get full of oil, scratched or even snagged on something. He wanted yellow gold because it’s a classic look but I’m sure it’s going to stay in the box more than out. When we do go out he’s pretty heavy into the jewelry (necklace and watches) so I’m sure that’s when he’ll choose to wear it!! It’s a symbol but doesn’t make or break a marriage!
No advice except to say I’ve been married for two weeks and my now husband doesn’t like wearing his ring. He was excited to choose it but doesn’t like wearing it.
He told me he will give it two months and then see if he will contine to wear it. It doesn’t help that none of his married guy friends wear their rings (my husband works in IT, as do his friends so no excuse there). It’s fine with me. I don’t really care as he’s still my husband. I have asked him to wear it when we go on evenings out or traveling, etc.
MY DH had been married (briefly) before and he had got a wedding ring for that and never enjoyed wearing it. We discussed early on how he would rather not wear a wedding ring and I was fine with that (I didn’t wear and engagement ring either and have just chosen to wear a wedding band). If someone wants to know if he is married they can ask and he will tell them. And I still feel ‘tied’ to him even without the symbolism of a ring of metal on his finger. I got him a watch he had been lusting after as his wedding day gift and he loves to wear that, says he feels naked without it and proudly tells everyone who asks about it (it’s a koa wood one, quite unusual to see, so people comment on it) that it was what he got on the wedding day instead of a ring. Maybe you need to find something else he would like to wear if he is really dead against having a ring?
None of the men in our family ever wore a wedding ring in a regular basis. Not a cheater in the bunch. It didn’t and doesn’t bother me at all.
At the end of the day what someone chooses to wear or do with their body is their own choice. If it was a husband telling his wife to not wear skirts or that she had to wear a ring then everyone would be up in arms about it. It is such a double standard that runs rampant on this website.
He does like wearing watches, but has never worn a ring. This may be contributing to his hesitation. I have asked him directly what he doesn’t like about the idea, but he just says “I dont know” (the answer to a lot of our “disagreements”). I don’t really want to push the issue too much further.
To those who think I am being controlling, I am not, but I do not think it is to much to ask, either. He would flip shit if I refused to wear a ring. So how is that a double standard?
texaslemon: my husband is not the jewelry wearing type. we did get him a ring, but he never wears it. its not his style and he cant wear it work. does not make him any less married or committed to me. I can honestly say that him not wearing it does not bother me at all.
Now that i think of it – my dad doesnt wear a ring either.
My sister’s husband has never worn it. I understand not everyone is used to it but you can at least try.. I mean nothing is going to happen to him. And i think wedding band looks hot haha
where i live a guy already has a band when engaged and my Fiance never takes it off he likes to show that he is getting married haha
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