Post # 1
I meant to hit reply and accidentally hit delete post!! There should be a warning for this thing.
No, I don’t expect FI to shell out money for an anniversary upgrade because honestly, I am not shallow about the size, colour, clarity. I am very happy to be engaged to the man of my dreams. I am just upset that there are better looking diamonds in the same price range than what he chose, and he didn’t get the ‘bang for his buck’. Consider this a rant if you will.
Maybe this is in my head, but I don’t think it sparkles as much as other diamonds which is what led me to dig the report and discover the feather on the top facet. I will be posting a picture of my ring. Let me know what you think bees, is this appropriate sparkle or have I been conditioned to have unrealistic sparkle standards?
Post # 2
Sorry for the nails, but I have limited pictures at the moment and the most flattering ones I have of the diamond.
Post # 3
I think it’s all in your head…it looks normal.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2016 - Lola's Trailer Park
It’s fine. I see nothing wrong.
Post # 5
It is a beautiful ring, and I don’t see an inclusion.
Post # 6
Are the diamonds you’re comparing your diamond to bigger than yours? I don’t think the feather would really impact the overall sparkle that much. Considering the rest of the specs on your ring were ideal — like cut. But I know my larger diamonds sparkle more than my smaller ones so that’s why this might be a size not quality issue. I really couldn’t even see the feather under magnification in your last post. You have a beautiful ring! Hopefully you can grow to love it. Because there’s nothing really you can do about it now.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2017 - A vineyard
I just wanted to say I think you have a beautiful ring and I don’t even see the issue you have been telling us about 🙂
Also I hope this story helps. I too have a ring with an inclusion in it. Mine is pretty huge. Luckily it’s mostly hidden by a prong. However I admit when I was first engaged and right up until I got married it was ALL I SAW. To me it was massive and I felt I needed an upgrade on my stone ASAP. Then I got married and all of that prewedding stress went away and I actually stopped noticing it at all unless I was really inspecting my ring up close. It makes it easier to be happy with what I do have until we can actually get me an entirely new ring in 15/20 years and the timing is much better.
My husband is jr enlisted so to save him money we used my grandma’s slightly less than half carat stone which other than this huge inclusion is beautiful. So when I look at it now I mostly just remember how much my grandma loved me and how my husband loves me now. Hopefully after all the wedding stuff is done you might be able to think something similar! Your ring really is very pretty!
Post # 8
Your ring and diamond is gorgeous. Your worries are all in your head.
Post # 9
It must be in your head because that diamond looks just about the same as every other diamond posted here. I think some women get this unrealistic idea of what an engagement ring “looks like” and that unrealistic idea ultimately leads to them NEVER being happy with anything. Men are not mind readers. Unless you have a grown up conversation and talk with them about having a say in your own ring, they are not going to be able to get everything you want down to the most miniscule detail like your invisible “feather.”
Post # 10
zircondragon : Thanks this is a wonderful way to think about it. Sometimes when one overthinks things they can compound issues in their head. Most of the rings I see on here are honkers, sparkle like crazy or are moissanites with high dispersion, so I might have built up an inferiority complex. IDK. Time to lay off lurking on the Rings board lol.
I agree with another PP, that the sparkle might be linked to size, and if it’s so I cannot complain because I think 0.5 fits perfectly on my finger and I work with my hands a lot and so wouldn’t want an size upgrade anyway. .
I probably won’t mention this to FI, like I said he is very proud for picking the diamond himself and he is the sensitive sort. There is nothing he can do anyway, so why mention it to him and make him sad.
I love my FI and ring very much, I hope I grow to love the stone immensely as well. Perhaps one day when I have kids and really get into pre-wedding stress I will laugh at my teeny worries about an inclusion in comparison. What’s done is done.
Post # 11
feather is the best inclusion to have. Its not like you have a big carbon freckle glaring at you all day. Can you even see the feather with your eye?
Post # 12
I think the problem is the light in the room. Take a picture outside with your hand in the sun. Otherwise it looks beautiful and sparkly to me.
Post # 13
Wow. I really can’t see anything wrong with it.
Post # 14
tryptofanaticat : It has a feather and crystal inclusion right on the top, largest facet. In the grand scheme of things, maybe it doesn’t matter anyway.
Post # 15
greywacke : I didn’t read the whole other thread, but I did want to tell you that I think that your ring is absolutely beautiful!!