(Closed) FI proposed but now wants to wait…..

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Is there any way you could pare down your wedding ideas so you can get married for very little money?  After all, it’s nice to have a wedding but in the end it’s about the marriage.

Post # 4
Member
2548 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is having a wedding super important to you? My fiance and I are eloping with our son there to save money, so we get our wedding and honeymoon in one. However, travelling with 4 children can be expensive. I’m certain that Iowa must have some nice place to elope at!

Post # 6
Member
990 posts
Busy bee

Hvae you considered that maybe he’s not ready yet, which is why he’s pushing it back? I hate to be pessimistic, but maybe he’s a little nervous or getting cold feet. What I would do is say “you know what, let’s just cancel it for right now and come back to it later” and see what he would say. If he says “great! now whats for dinner?” then you know what he would prefer, but if he says “no i dont want to do that…” then he’s serious, he just is very worried about the wedding (emotionally and financially)

Post # 7
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2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It is time for you to do some serious thinking about what you really want.  Do you really want a wedding or do you just want to be married?  Ask your Fiance the same question.  If you really want to be married then you don’t really need to save for a big deal party.  You can get married sooner and you can have an inexpensive yet memorable wedding.  If the big event wedding is what is important to both of you then you need to sit down and make a budget (maybe even start a savings account) for the wedding and plan out how long it will take you to save x amount of dollars.  Pick a date from there and insist that he sticks to it.  Tell him if he wants to push that date back or finds reasons not to set aside the $ each month that you two have budgeted for the wedding you will see that as him not wanting to marry you.  BTW, you may have to get yourself ready.  Your family and friends may very well be right.  

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