(Closed) FI really wants me to wear heels…

posted 5 years ago in Shoes
Post # 3
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

what kind of heels are we talking about here? I can’t see how 3-4 inch heels can cause you to break anything unless you’re drunk, on a very slippery surface. 

Get heels with a platform if anything. that way you get the height and the comfort. 


Post # 4
823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ZebraPrintMe:  I think your Fiance is being ridiculous.  One, you should be comfortable, and the last thing you’ll want on your wedding day is to be worrying about your feet hurting or stumbling around in heels you’re not used to wearing.  Two, no one wlll see what shoes you have on in a floor length dress anyway.  Have you asked your Fiance why he cares so much??


Post # 5
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Why is he dictating your footwear? I think it’s a little odd that he wants to choose the style of shoe you wear.  Is he normally controlling with your appearance?


Post # 6
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I have the same issue, except he wants me to wear flats and i want to wear heels. Hes 6’3″ and im 5’2″. Now you know the reason i want to wear heels and hes even taller when he wears dress shoes, at least with the heals they would give me some sort of height but he wants me to wear flats because he thinks its cute that im so short. 

Post # 7
2296 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Would he be OK with wedges?  Those are often more comfortable since they have a more secure base.  Also make sure you stock up on heel pads and ball-of-foot pads…those will help add some cushion to the shoe!

That’s really weird that he is so insistent about you wearing heels….especially when they are uncomfortable for you!  I assume you’ve told him that right?  


Post # 8
8755 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

strange that he is making your wear heels. 

i cannot wear very high heels.  1-3 inches are all i can tolorate. i do have very comfortable heels that i can walk around in all day.

what about if you wore a very low heel. you have plenty of time to practice walking in them.

Post # 10
4971 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Your footwear is your choice.  If he has a “thing” about heels, ask the photographer to take some shots of you wearing heels with the wedding dress, but the rest of the day wear your choice of footwear.    

Post # 11
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Try to find some wedges, there are cute comfortable ones out there.  He probably just doesn’t want to look like a giant in your pictures.  🙂  My husband said I could wear whatever I wanted as long as I wasn’t taller than him (and he wasn’t crazy about being the same height).  Which meant 3 1/2″ or less heels.  I went with flats. 

Post # 13
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think your Fiance really gets a say, but if you want to compromise why don’t you get some low 2 inch heels for the ceremony then switch to flats for the reception?

I planned to wear my 2.5 inch heels all night but I barely made it through the ceremony it was so uncomfortable!

Just let your seamstress know if you plan to switch shoes so she can hem it appropriately.

Post # 15
4971 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ZebraPrintMe:   Sorry not to be clear – I meant just take photos of your feet/legs/heels whatever it is he wants – but not to actually wear the heels.  Just pose with them.  Not sure if that would satisfy him, but it’s a thought…

For what it is worth, I plan to wear Danskos, white patent with about a two inch heel.  Would he consider those “cheating”?  


Post # 16
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015


You’d probably be sitting and/or lifting up the hem of your dress to expose your photo op heels, so it shouldn’t look too strange if you have the dress hemmed for your flats.

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