(Closed) FI + Rehearsal Dinner = UGHHH!

posted 6 years ago in Food
Post # 3
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

OMG- I am going thru the same thing right now LOL

Is the menu limited because they are considering it a “banquet”?  That’s what happened to us and we asked them to change it so everyone can order off the regular menu.

Post # 4
29 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012


“He wanted to exclude the bridal party. I think that is incredibly poor etiquette. I am having 3 bridesmaids and his dad is his only groomsman.”

That is absurd, he’s being a real jackass on that part. You don’t have a refersal dinner without the people who are *IN* the wedding.

“His issue is that they are all married and have kids (1-5 years old), so all those extra folks would be included. I tried telling him these are things we need to talk to his dad about since he holds the pursestrings, and he can’t make financial decisions about the rehearsal dinner on his dad’s behalf. He tells me I’m trying to run up a huge bill for his dad. Umm, no I’m not!”

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask people to try and find alternate arragements for their children unless they are willing to cover the cost of those childrens meals themselves.  But, really, that’s up to who is paying in my opinion.

“Then last night I emailed ILs some potential restaurants. They told me which one they liked the best, and it was one of my top choices as well. I asked Fiance to look at it to see what he thinks. Well, he’s not happy with the menu because all he can have is steak or chicken. (Which is all he eats anyway!) But apparently he wants more options like pasta, hamburgers, sandwiches, etc. Really? We’re not having our rehearsal dinner at Applebee’s.”

I’m a horribly picky eater too.  Tell him another man said to suck it up and be a man.  Your allergy takes priority over his pickiness.

Post # 5
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Emily Post re Rehearsal Dinner guest list: “The guest list at a rehearsal dinner should include the members of the wedding party and their spouses,fiancé(e)s, or live-in partners; the officiant and his or her spouse or partner; the parents, stepparents, and grandparents of the bride and groom; and any siblings of the bride and groom who are not in the wedding party. If single members of the wedding party were invited to bring a date to the wedding, then it’s kind to include the date at the rehearsal dinner. Any children of the bride and groom from a previous marriage are invited, unless they are too young.  Parents of young attendants, such as a flower girl or ring bearer, are also included.”

The bridal party can get babysitters-many hotels have options for this. But truthfully, I can’t see a couple of kid’s meals being that much money. If you’re having a rehearsal, the participants are “required” guests. 

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