Post # 1
This has caused some minor, petty rowing between us. I’ll try to keep this short…
My ideal day to get married is a Saturday, and so if FI’s. However, I looked at a few venues and some of them cost several thousand more for Saturdays rather than weekdays. I understand that it’s generally not ideal for guests to have to take a day off work for a wedding, but 90% of our guests are coming from the other side of the Atlantic and will be coming for more than just a weekend anyway.
What I said to Fi is that IF (and this is a big if) it turns out that we would save thousands of dollars by having a wedding during the week and it wouldn’t inconvenience 90% of our guests anyway as they’d already be taking time off work, it should be something we consider. Also, our wedding is two years away and we are only inviting close friends and family (we want to keep it to about 50-60 people), so the people who live near us who could possibly be inconvenienced are our nearest and dearest and who we’ve taken time off with together for various joint activities in the past. I don’t see this being an issue for them. But even though Fiance and I have taken a week off work and flown overseas for our close friends’ weddings many times over the past few years and never once felt inconvenienced, he still thinks this is an issue.
We also got onto the topic of marrying on a Sunday. Despite being a popular day to marry, he says this, too, is no good because people have work the next day and Sunday weddings (as well as weekday weddings, he alleges) are always dead. I think he is confusing an intimate wedding of only people close to the bride and groom with an outing to a nightclub where, of course, a Wednesday night is completely different from a Saturday night.
Anyway, I’m keen to know your thoughts. And again I’ll emphasize that to me this would only be an issue if the difference between days was several thousand dollars. As it happens, we will probably go with a venue where this isn’t even relevant, and do it on a Saturday so that no one is potentially inconvenienced.
Post # 3
I think it’s a difficult issue, because you clearly both have different opinions – so there’s going to have to be compromise from one or the other.
There’s nothing wrong with having a weekday wedding – if he’s worried about people being at work the next day, what about a friday and make it a long weekend?
I’m having mine on a monday, and if people can’t make it – then they can’t make it. But I’m not paying an extra £7K to move it to a saturday, so more people can come. The couple comes first at their own wedding, and I think that if your priority is saving money, then there’s nothing wrong with holding your wedding on a weekday and anticipating a smaller guest list.
Post # 4
This is why we’re getting married on a Friday!
Post # 5
Fiance and I agreed that Saturday is the most convenient day to have a wedding. That’s why we chose a Saturday.
I’ve been to many fun Friday weddings but we had our hearts set on Saturday
How many times can I use Saturday in the same post??
Post # 6
We were in a similar situation to you where we had about 70 guests and many out of town guests that were coming for a week anyway. We’re also full of teachers and shift workers amongst the local guests. We got married on a Friday and the party went on well past midnight.
Post # 7
That is a difficult situation considering you both seem pretty set on your opinions. And in all honesty you both are correct.
Saturdays are much easier logistics wise however they are more expensive.
We had a Friday wedding and saved thousands…vendors were thrilled to book on a Friday and offered many discounts and bonuses within their packages. We only had a few people complain about the difficultly of getting off work and nearly all the people we really wanted there attended, regardless of the complications. I don’t regret our Friday wedding at all.
Post # 8
@ticatica: Exactly what I was going to suggest!
Post # 9
honestly, i was really set on having mine on a saturday, too; i didn’t want to inconvenience people by making them have to take days off from work or drive back late on sunday.
Post # 10
I think its fine to have it another day. Just don’t be too upset if certain people can’t get the time off work or whatever. It sounds like it should work for most people though, so not a big deal. Especially if its going to save you thousands, go for it!
Post # 11
I would say if you are going to do a day other than Saturday, the time would have to accomodate for the guests who are in town and may have to stick with their work schedule. I’ll confess I have toyed many times with the idea of a Friday night champagne and cake reception or a Sunday brunch wedding. Perhaps you guys can discuss a holiday weekend wedding? Most of our guests were in town but the guests who weren’t were also IN the wedding party. We decided to have the wedding on Thanksgiving weekend where family would already be down here for the holidays. Or if you are set on a Saturday, ask a venue about their off season rates if that works for you. They tend to be a lot less cheaper than June would be.
Post # 12
I feel ya. Saturday is really the only day we can have it. We are going to have family from both of us traveling 3-7 hours (depending on venue), so Saturday would be the most convienent that way. Plus, my family is twice the size of my FI’s and he is already afraid much of his family won’t travel the distance. If we made it on a Friday/Sunday they almost certainly won’t come. (His cousins have lots of kids and don’t always make it to weddings/family events). Much of my family would make it to my wedding despite that, but since its more than just my wedding…
Anyways, I think you both have completely valid points. I say, choose a few venues and then line up all the costs for different days. That will point out obvious price differences, but it might also show up a less expensive venue for a Saturday reception.
Post # 13
Some great advice here already, thanks! I think he was most open to Fridays if it can’t be a Saturday, and it’s great to hear that there are some decent discounts to explore. I think we should also look into long weekends around that time. I guess one of the advantages of having such a long engagement period is that hopefully we can nail down a good date so far in advance. Thanks Beefriends!
Post # 14
I think he’s right about Sunday weddings – I always have less fun at them knowing I have to work the next day, and if they’re Sunday evenings, I usually leave early. If you don’t do Saturday, I’d do Friday night. Personally, I agree with your Fiance that the best time to have a wedding is on a Saturday, but if you’re going to save thousands, perhaps you should discuss a Friday evening.
Post # 15
Hmmmm I agree with him…haha sorry…
Post # 16
@Cady: Heh heh, that’s okay! I do too! I just don’t think he believes me about the price thing, but if/when he sees it, I think he’ll consider my point a bit more as we’re trrying to keep costs low.