(Closed) FI seems to be acting out

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t think you can really gauge someone’s feelings over the phone so try not to look too much into his “feelings” until you can really speak to him in person. I think that a longggg conversation about the present and the future needs to be had, so you can address whatever you think is going on.

I don’t think that a haircut is really a sign of rebellion. My husband changes his hair all the time and it grows back like a weed. The first time he shaved his head short, I liked it, but I asked him why he pulled a Britney. He shrugged his shoulders  and looked at me with a smirk on his face and said he felt like his hair was thinning and he wanted to see where he was at with his hairline. LOL.

Maybe he’s a little lost and stressed out about the future and marriage, or maybe his “family issues” are affecting him harder than you thought.

Either way, a serious conversation to get yourselves back on the same page (or see if you even can get back on the same page) is necessary and long overdue. This should have been addressed before you got engaged.



Post # 17
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would be so mad if my Fiance seperated the laundry and excluded mine. In my opinion, thats more work than just doing it all together. Seems like a passive agressive move on his part..

Post # 18
10985 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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I second reading Bancroft’s book.

Post # 19
39 posts

Honestly I didn’t read any of the comments, but last semester I went to school 18 hours a week. On campus not online. I worked in between 15-30 hours a week, and did part time jobs running errands for extra money. And I was still able to make dinner and wash dishes and laundry. 


I’m sure just because he was in school he could still find time to wash some dishes and do laundry. But that’s in the past so can’t change that. But I think he needs to step up on helping around the house. 

Post # 20
3302 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Never ask a man to “help out” with the housework. That gives the impression that he’s helping you do YOUR job. Instead he has to be prepared to do his share. If he refuses he’s going to bring you nothing but misery, guaranteed.

Post # 21
1549 posts
Bumble bee

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cantwaittobeamrs:  agreed!!! Sounds like something my brother and I would have done to each other when we were fifteen and cranky with each other…

Post # 22
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Drop him like a bad habit…find someone who wants to be in a relationship with you. Life is too short to work this hard…

Post # 23
1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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MrsWoods47:  That’s your takeaway from her post?

OP, he sounds very emotionally immature and not ready for marriage.

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