Post # 62
Not separating the behaviour from the individual is, in fact, the definition of verbal abuse.
I’m the first one to admit that I do some dumbass things sometimes, but if anyone called me stupid, well let’s just say that it would be a really dumbass thing of them to do.
Post # 63
Right now my SO and I are dealing with a lot too. We put our beloved dog down a few days ago, we’re moving, a family member died and to top it all off he got into a car accident last week. (It wasn’t his fault but dealing with insurance is such a pain) It becomes easy to get wrapped up in stress and snap at each other, especially because the only people living in our home is us. lol.
Like this morning when he tried to tell me how to do the laundry. Who has been doing the laundry for the past three years? (I’ll give you bee’s a hint. It wasn’t him.) I just bit my tounge and poured him a cup of coffee. In the moment I thought my head was going to spin around but now, 10 hours later, it’s just funny.
I knew I loved my SO when he could drive me insane and I was still wanting to come home to him. lol. Bickering just gives you the excuse to spend some private time making up tonight. haha.
Post # 64
@anothersmith: Not separating the behaviour from the individual is, in fact, the definition of verbal abuse.
To liken this situation to verbal abuse is laughable. It’s safe to say that people have different expecations of their partners in a relationship, and that is perfectly fine. If you don’t accept that kind of treatment from a SO, that’s absolutely ok in my book. If you are able to take it in stride and laugh it off, that’s also ok. It’s clear the OP really didn’t take much issue with the statement, she came here to vent about it. I think some people need to get off their high horse and realize your relationship is far from perfect too. And to throw around the term “abuse” for this situation is infantile and petty and seems like an attempt to undermine the value of an otherwise good relationship.