(Closed) FI STILL hasn’t asked his ‘men (one month to go…) how long to tuxedos take?

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m not sure about renting, but the store told my Fiance that his suit would be altered in a week.

I think unless the groomsmen have especially difficult bodies (extra big/tall, short, etc) then alterations shouldn’t take too long.

But your Fiance still needs to get on that like…yesterday, lol.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Kudos to you for not panicking!  I think you will be fine if you’re just renting, but I agree with PP, he needs to get on it!  Not only is he asking last minute, but they are going to have to scramble to get in there and get their measurements. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Oh hun, we went through the same thing. We were a month out and two groomsmen had nothing. Thankfully depending on where you are getting them, they can rush them but it will be an extra charge. Most guys don’t want to seem naggy so they tell them once and thats it. Hubby kept telling his groomsmen and finally I started messaging them and they did it. Lol.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@thehoneybear:Oooh, I’d say that your Fiance needs to get over his asking them in person thing and do this ASAP. Skype them if he wants to see their faces, but they need to set this day aside, set the $$ aside (rather quickly), and get their measurements in and arrangements made. You’ve been on the bee for a while if I remember right, he’s had PLENTY of time to make arrangements to ask them in person. 

I know you guys have already had a few rows about it, but he needs to understand that he’s putting the potential guys (if they’re even free anymore!) in a tight spot if they’re paying for their own, and time-wise, he’s pushing the deadline. He needs to accept that he messed that up and he can’t have his way anymore. Gotta pick up the phone.

ETA- sorry if that’s harsh, I just want to go kick him in the butt for you! Mr.ND was like that with some things…”oh we have so much time.” No we don’t, babe, this is weddding world. Time FLIES!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I was pissed when my Darling Husband hadn’t asked when we had 6 months to go, lol. I’d be freaking out if I were you. After much nagging he said he said it was taken care of. So tux rental time comes and he wasn’t communicating with the guys. So I Facebooked them and got a message back from his own step-brother saying he had no clue he was a groomsman. Ugh I think he felt really awkward asking them. Guys are weird like that.

Anyway it all worked out but you need to have your Fiance take care of this asap! If the guys are expected to pay for their own rentals, then its kind of rude to have it be such short notice.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My Fiance pulled this crap too.  He isn’t the best at keeping in touch with people so he wanted to try to “rekindle” his friendships before asking his Groomsmen.  However he sucked at that too so it was like barely 2 months out before he asked them all.  No worries, they still managed to get measured in time.  Our place needed like a month but there were a couple who went past the date and they’re still going to be ok.  I just told Fiance that if he didn’t get on it he was going to look awfully stupid standing there with no one with my 6 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 1 junior looked on.  What helped was taking him to some tux places to look and seeing the sense of alarm on the clerks’ faces when he told them he hadn’t asked everyone yet.  Once he realized (independently of me telling him) that he was running out of time, he got his act together.  Maybe try that??

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@HoyaLawya2010: Good advice! That’s what lit the fire under Mr.ND’s butt. I had to drag him to the shop, and once they said that they needed to know about 2 months out, but the sooner the better, he’d called all of the groomsemen and ushers by supper that day. They’d known for a long time that they’d be in our wedding, but no clue on suits vs tuxes, buying vs renting, etc. Having the shop guys lay it out for him made him jump right on it. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We rented from Men’s Warehouse, they said all the guys needed to be fitted at least 2 weeks prior to the event.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@thehoneybear: It took ours about three to four weeks. He needs to pick them out NOW. Just tell him they will charge a rush fee if he waits. Lol, that’s what I told Darling Husband, but that’s because that’s what the lady at the tux rental place told me.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If my husband had pulled a stunt like that, I would have lost my mind.  You are well within your right to get his butt moving NOW!

Oh – and I would say you need at least a month for tuxes.  And I agree with that a PP said about his at very least picking out the style now.  That took us much longer than expected.

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