(Closed) FI taking a solo vacation 2 months before the wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Will you be able to be in contact with him

during the trip if you have things you need his opinion on? Or will he be totally off the grid? 

Post # 3
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171 posts
Blushing bee

You’re worried about a trip happening next April? You have PLENTY of time in advance to get as many wedding related/DIY things completed before he goes. He was also thoughtful enough to have the financial aspect of the trip already handled. I would be bummed I couldn’t join, but I think you are getting worked up over nothing here.. 

Post # 4
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2553 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

earlgrey:  I could ask my husband if he ever went a two-week period without helping plan our wedding but I think he might actually laugh himself to death.

You will not have any significant time-sensitive needs at that time. You can have your invites addressed and ready to go before he leaves. If you’re so concerned about equality you can always keep track of the time you spend working on things while he’s gone and let him make up for it with thank-you cards, but I suspect your real problem is that he’s going without you. Totally understandable to be bummed but I’d let it go.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I would just get all the invites ready and addressed before he goes.  He has given you plenty of notice!  If it is important to him, I would let it go.  I would use the 2 weeks to do things like you hair and make up trial runs and have some fun girl time with your friends.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

What do you think could possibly be so serious that you must have his input on, or the wedding will fall apart? Tri tip vs new york strip?

Your big decisions will be made long before next April. If you are too scared to make decisions yourself, make them in the next 10 minths while he is still here.

Post # 8
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Worker bee

jennmariee:  jcent:  +1 to stuffing and addressing envelopes for you invites before he leaves. You can have them ready to go, stamps and all, in a box so when the time comes you just have to drop them off at the post office. Honestly, I think that’s a great idea for ALL bees! It really cuts down on the pre-wedding stress to have things done in advance 🙂

The only other things I can think of coming up about 2 months out is hair/makeup trials. Luckily, you don’t need him for that. Plus you could have a dress fitting or bridal shower around that time – which are also things you don’t need him for. I agree with PP. Use those two weeks to have some fun with your bridal party. Maybe your girls can plan your bridal shower for that time and you will get to spend some quality time with your loved ones to take your mind off of the fact that your Fiance is on an adventure of his own. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

earlgrey:  I think you’re borrowing trouble.  I arranged my wedding within 6 months and didn’t have much of a struggle (though granted it was quite casual).  I think all major issues will have been addressed by then, you can have the invitations written up and ready to go.  Honestly it would be very good for you to take two weeks off yourself.  Consider it a vacation from planning.  When his trip is over, you can address anything you are worrying about – I bet the list will be quite small.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

I was busy with nothing two months before the wedding. Certainly, nothing that couldn’t be put off for two weeks if it needed to be. Most of the detail confirming meetings and emails happened 6 weeks out, so right when he’d be returning anyway. But it’s not as though those emails couldnt have been answered a few days later. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Two months out I was stuffing invites and making sure no vendor was sneaking additional rental charges. Honestly there isn’t much to do until the final month. My Darling Husband traveled all the time. Align on what decisions need his major input, get those done before or after, and everything else you take care of. You can do this 

Post # 14
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101 posts
Blushing bee

My FH has been traveling a ton and honeslty, some of the away time has been really nice. Wedding planing is stressful and the away time has made us appreciate each other much more. He was gone for two weeks right about 2 months before our date and I mostly took a break from planning which was great. I did work on a few surprise projects, which was also really nice. 

If you plan on sending out invites while he is gone, you can have him help you address the envelopes before he leaves. You have plenty of notice and I wouldn’t be worried about this aspect of his trip. 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

At two months out my invites were ready to go out and I had nothing to do other than to twiddle my thumbs until I could send them out and start getting responses. Have him help stuff invites before you leave, I see no issue with the timing.

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