(Closed) FI taking a solo vacation 2 months before the wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
1149 posts
Bumble bee

He’ll probably be back way before RSVPs come in and seating charts need to be drawn, I think by that time everything else would have been finalized.  If you are really worried you can ask all your vendors if anything important on their end that needs your input happens then.  You can preplan or pre-agree on those things before your boyfriend leaves. Or how about settle one day on his trip like in the middle of those two weeks for a skype call in case something came up. I honestly think there’s nothing to worry about but the things I mentioned might help put your mind at east.

Post # 17
3064 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

earlgrey:  over reacting. he can help you before and after he leaves for the trip. the second you finalize the guest list you can assemble invites, and unless you need help dropping them in the mailbox the trip shouldn’t make a difference.

its only two weeks-relax. I think maybe you don’t want him to go on this solo trip and are using the wedding as an excuse?

Edit: Saw your update so my last comment isn’t relevant. Wedding planning really isn’t as stressful as people make it out to be. I literally planned the whole thing by myself with VERY little help or input from my husband, he could have been on vacation the whole time we were engaged and I still got it done 🙂 haha. it will be fine! You will likely be most stressed the month/last few weeks before the wedding ( chasing people down for RSVPs , writing those last checks) . Two months is still no stess zone ( at least for me)


  • This reply was modified 3 years, 5 months ago by  Boxerlover24.
Post # 18
382 posts
Helper bee

Two months before my wedding I was busy attending a bridal shower hosted by my Mother-In-Law. I was also busy wondering how to wear my hair and going to bridal shows just to feel in “sync” with my wedding. Most things had already been done by then: venue, food, photographer, decorations, etc.

My Darling Husband was working on our playlist by himself (I am terrible choosing music to dance to) and I think he was also having the finishing touches on his tux (but, then again we planned everything in 5 months).

I think if you both organize yourselves well there will be nothing pending to do by April 🙂 you’ll be fine! Take that time to go to a spa or treat yourself somewhere nice. Wedding planning can be stressful and a break will also benefit you.

Post # 19
221 posts
Helper bee

Two weeks away is really nothing, yes you are overreacting IMO. Let him go any enjoy his trip, you can relax and take two weeks break from planning if you can’t do it alone.

Post # 20
1262 posts
Bumble bee

earlgrey:  Honestly? It’s two weeks. I thought you were going to say he was heading off for 6 months. 2 weeks is not a big deal, especially for a long planned trip! It’ll be fine. Completely fine. Schedule a massage, catch up with some friends, or just enjoy the down time. But let him have this trip.

And congratulations to both of you!

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 5 months ago by  mangosandcats.
Post # 21
1310 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

You’ll be fine. Just mail the invitations before he leaves if you need his help with that (and you may not need it). Other than that, I can’t think of anything time sensitive I was doing at two months out. I hope he has a great trip!

Post # 22
4252 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

You my dear are making a mountain out of a molehill.  Seriously.  There is a ton you can get done in advance.  I might be concerned if he was going for a 2-week trip just a few weeks before your wedding but he isn’t.  You would be right at the time to send out invites and that really isn’t a big deal…maybe have him help you stuff and stamp them before he goes, but then when they start coming back just keep track of them.

Post # 23
1042 posts
Bumble bee

earlgrey:  Most stressful thing two months out was my mother. I had all Vendors booked at the six month mark and was just fine tuning decorations. 


Post # 24
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

earlgrey:  As PP stated, his timing shouldn’t be an issue. Is there something else you’re worried about?

Post # 25
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m getting married in June 2017 too! And I know from many bee’s posts and my own friend’s own experiences that there’s nothing that should come up in that timeframe that will not be anticipated and/or postponed! Yes sometimes unplanned things do spring up but it shouldn’t be anything major!

Post # 26
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

You will not really have much to do by then and its only 2 weeks I dont think it is to much of an issue. 

Post # 27
5889 posts
Bee Keeper

Sweetie, this is really not a big deal. I don’t know about you, but I’m a list person, I divided wedding tasks into 3: major stuff to get done in advance (venue, caterers etc), smaller details (cake toppers, centerpieces etc), and ‘month of’ (getting wedding license, confirming RSVP numbers with caterers etc). Just putting it in writing will make it seem more manageable- and most stuff falls into the first 2 categories. The really major stuff, you and your Fiance can/ should do well before he leaves & he’ll be back for any ‘month of’ details- so if you make a few decisions on your own from the 2nd ‘smaller details’ list while he’s gone it’s no biggie.


Post # 28
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

earlgrey:  Okay, you aren’t going to like this, but I  you cannot be controlling like this. If it’s something he’s been planning, it’s something he should be able to do whemever he wants. Even though you are going to be married, he is still his own person, and I don’t think you have the say to be angry over this. I’m sorry youre worried, trust me, I’m a huge worry-wart. But sometimes you just have to let go. 

Post # 29
5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

earlgrey:  Honestly… I dont understand when wedding planning takes over people lives. What could you possibly NOT handle for the wedding thats taking place 2 months later?? If you have to do invites, do them before he leaves or after he returns. OR – do them yourself. I had two friends come over and help me stuff envelopes. I’m just really not sure what you possibly think will be happening 2 months before the wedding?

You’re making a MUCH bigger deal out of this then need be. He’s clearly been planning this trip for quite some time. Don’t let him think that married life is going to be about him not being able to do stuff he wants to do.

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