(Closed) FI taking a trip a week after the wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’d be bummed.  But I’d want him to go too else I’d feel bad. Lose-lose situation? Hugs for you.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Honestly..I wouldn’t mind if he went

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I think you should let him go, and try to think of it from a happier perspective. You two will be married, which is forever! You have your WHOLE lives to do things together, so one week post wedding is like a drop in the bucket, in the grand scheme of things. You will still get to have your long trip together, and many, many, many days and nights to come. If he loves the fishing trip, and looks forward to it every year, I would send him off with a smile and know that he’s your husband now, and will be there forever πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hmmm, so let me get this right…

Wedding and then back to work.  No mini-moon?  Honeymoon later on.

And immediately after back to work, Hubby is off on a fishing trip with “the guys” and there is no way to communicate with him.

Did I get it all ?

If that is the case, YUP I’d be P-Oed

In the very least I figure you deserve a Mini Moon in there somewhere… say 3 or 4 Days post wedding just the two of you.

Lol, enough romance to carry you thru the time he’s away on the Fishing Trip.

PS… My first wedding, Hubby and I came back from our Honeymoon, and he immediately had to go away for a week on a business trip.  It sucked, but I managed thru it.  Mind you we were on the phone with each other each and every night (days before texts & cell phones).  I had lots of nice Honeymoon memories to keep me comfy… and found the week he was away a good chance to write Thank You Notes, catch up with GFs, organize gifts we got, do some decorating of our new apartment etc.  By the time he got back we were both very HUNGRY if you know what I mean !!

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ana77:  Maybe you can start on thank you notes while he is away? Post wedding spa day possibly??

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

I definitely would not worry about it. I would send him off with a big smile and hug, no guilt trips, and tell him to have a good time.

 

Then you can enjoy the down time and get some post-wedding, post-honeymoon R&R — maybe book an appointment for a spa day?

Buy a bottle of champagne and some cute lingerie so you can celebrate your reunion when he comes home from the trip.

πŸ˜‰

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wouldnt be happy about it, but I would be supportive which it sounds like you’re doing πŸ™‚

I would look at it from this perspective–you get to spend a week together with the new excitement of being married, he will go away, and when he comes back it will all still be so new and exciting πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I would definitely not be happy. But I don’t think my Fiance would do that a week after the wedding as he’d also feel like it was wrong. Did your fiancé discuss it with you? Did he feel bad that you would feel sad without him? Anyways, yea that wouldn’t work for me. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I can understand why you’d be a little bummed, but like PPs have said, it’s just a week and you’ll be married for the rest of your lives!

I’m in a kind of similar situation, where I’ve been offered a work trip to Korea like three days after our honeymoon. Fiance says he’ll miss me but is being really supportive, which makes me really happy. So maybe think of this as a way you can help make him happy instead of something that will make you sad, if that makes sense?

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@ilybride52513:  Same here, I wouldnt mind either. Its not like he is going to Vegas with the boys, He is going fishing. You can take that week and relax yourself.  Soon after, you will have your honeymoon and you will have him all to yourself. πŸ™‚ 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s a tradition… Try not to let it bother you.

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