Post # 1
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Busy bee
So my fiance was acting weird to me this morning. He just kept saying “you did something bad. You can confess to it at any time and I won’t be upset.” I thought he was actually messing with me because I didn’t know of anything “wrong” that I had done. When I finally said to him “you’re really making me mad. If you’re messing with me, tell me. If I actually did something to upset you, tell me what it is and I’ll try to fix it.” He says that he has evidence that I have gone through his computer and his Man Cave to try and snoop about my Valentine’s day present that he was apparently excited to give me. Bees, I never go in there without him unless it’s because he left his laundry in the dryer and I needed to move it so I could do my own. The thought of snooping hadn’t actually occurred to me because I’ve been distracted with other things. I didn’t do what he is saying that I did. I have no way to make him believe me though. I am so upset about this- I’d never go through his stuff or his computer like that. I don’t know what to do other than say “I didn’t do that.” I’m really so upset that he thinks I’m lying to him… What do I do?
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
@DuckEBee: I would ask him what his proof is. He probably doesn’t really have any proof. Just tell him again that you didn’t snoop, and then drop it. The more you bring it up the more it’ll sound like you did snoop. If he brings it up just tell him you aren’t talking aout it anymore because it makes you mad that he doesn’t believe you.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
@DuckEBee: id just let it go. If you didn’t do it, you didn’t do it ad there’s no way to PROVE you didn’t.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
There’s nothing that makes me more mad than someone accussing me of something I didn’t do. It’s infuriating!
I don’t really have any advice because once someone is in the mindset it’s hard to get them out. Good luck!
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
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@DuckEBee: What a weirdo! Maybe the surprise on your face when you finally get the gift will be proof enough.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
I would just say “You sound crazy. I did NOT snoop like I said, and If I did I would have told you by now. Stop being weird it’s irritating me. If you think I’m a liar then we have bigger problems we need to talk about than your imaginary snooping.”
Post # 8
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Busy bee
@beetee123: He says he noticed that the mouse and chair were warmer than usual when he came home one day and that I must have been there.
Post # 9
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Honey bee
@PixelMePretty: +1 I’d say something like that and express how totally pissed off I was that he was accusing me of something I never did.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
@DuckEBee: His chair was warm?! That’s some crazypants talk right there. “Sorry babe, you want me to turn down the heat in the house or put a fan on your chair?”
Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
I would say that he cna’t possibly have proof because you didn’t snoop and he needs to stop being so accusatory. If he really, seriously, thinks you’re lying then a discussion about honesty and trust is in order.
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
“I didn’t snoop. It’s nice that you did your Valentine’s shopping early, but if it’s going to make you so paranoid that you accuse me of snooping when I’ve told you I haven’t, it’s not really worth it. You are ruining your own surprise for me – I honestly had no clue.”
Post # 13
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Newbee
Tell him you didn’t want anything from Frederick’s of Hollywood anyway! 
wait, I just googled frederick’s and they actually have some cute isht nowadays
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
@CakeyP: +1
talk about ruining the excitement of the gift. Now you’re just gonna think about him accusing you of lying every time you look at it.
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
Not going to lie this would piss me off.
I agree about turning it around on him and saying that the more he continues to accuse you, the more he is ruining the excitment for the pending gift. If he still continues, that I would say something to the tune of “you obviously don’t know me, and apparently we have some trust issues we need to work on.” Hopefully he will get the hint that you are serious and it’s starting to upset you.