(Closed) FI thinks pro photographer is a waste of money, any advice? :(

posted 10 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
1759 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Juliepants: I’m sort of going through the same thing with my Fiance, at the moment. He’s cool with spending the money (to an exent), but he’s expecting A LOT for that. For instance, if I were to show him that package you just talked about, he’d be livid at the fact that it doesn’t include very much ‘in hand’, such as a wedding album, or parent albums. I’ve tried to tell him the post-production takes a lot of time, etc., but he just doesn’t understand.
We’re in Barrie, so we’re in the same sort of area..

Post # 4
3218 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t know if you can convince him to see your way. But that’s non compramisable on my books. I think in order to convince him, say that you, will be paying for all of it. Can you afford to?

Post # 5
2022 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Photos are the part of your wedding that you will have to keep and cherish for the rest of your life. It’s one of the MOST important aspects of the wedding, IMO, even more so than the dress.

Post # 6
4831 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Look at it this way, after the wedding day is over what are the only lasting things?

1) the rings

2) the photos

3) the marriage

All else (i.e. food, location, booze, etc) is gone after the day.

Isn’t it worth spending money on what will last?

Also, once you have the photos, then you have gifts all ready for the following Christmas. Wedding albums for the parents and grandparents.

Post # 7
1884 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My fi felt the same way, his Brother-In-Law used to do some professional photography and even took pictures at fi’s first wedding…  He insisted that we didn’t need a photographer and what it came down to was me saying quite frankly “I don’t care if it’s not important to you to have professional pictures, it is to me and this is who we’re getting”.

I really just had to put my foot down and once I did he thought it was a better idea, then we got our engagement pictures and he saw how awesome those turned out so now he’s on board completely and his Brother-In-Law gets to just enjoy the wedding instead of having to work.  🙂


Good luck!

Post # 9
992 posts
Busy bee

Show him pictures on http://youarenotaphotographer.com/, and see if he changes his tune. That site is rife with ‘fauxtogs’ who are just amateurs with a point and shoot, thinking they can take nice photos. Let him decide after taking a gander at some of those doozies.

Post # 10
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ditto what wonderwoman said.  Show him wedding pictures that you DON’T like, in comparison to what you do.  If its important to you, just make it clear.  And maybe be willing to compromise on something else, if possible.

Post # 11
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

You should also mention that you want your friends to be able to enjoy the wedding without having to worry about getting pictures for you. Also, professional photos are edited and photos from friends are not. It’s amazing what a little (or a lot) of editing can do.

Post # 12
373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

After all of the money spent on everyting else the only things that are left at the end are the marriage and the photos to remember it by. If he doesn’t agree I’d book it anyhow and I am sure he’ll be thankful later!

Post # 13
552 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Wonderwoman217: This- I know that at first wedding photography has a sticker shock, but I think you really need to sit your Fiance down and explain why a good photographer charges this much (experience, artistic expertise, good editing skills, dependability)

Make the point that all the $$ you spend on food, music and booze is just going to be for one day, while the $ you spend on a photographer is for a product that will last your lifetime and will bring great joy to your family when they hang prints up in their houses.

I think you just need to put it into perspective and explain that the photographer is not charging thousands to work for one day- they will be working for at least 6 weeks editing.

Post # 16
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My Fiance had similiar thoughts on the photography. He figured that since we are having such a small wedding that it really didn’t matter. Well, I photograph weddings, so I know it matters and it was important to me.

We were on the same page about the cost and that we needed to keep it under $1000 dollars, which isn’t easy! Luckily, I found a great photographer that was offering an insane discount on craigslist. Fiance loved her and so we booked her.

I think with him, (he’s an amatuer photographer) and he didn’t like anyone’s work, so that’s why he was against it, but when I found our girl, he was all over it, plus she was cheap.

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