Post # 1
Bit of a back story, I originally wanted to elope but compromised on having a small intimate wedding. He felt that I would regret not having the proper wedding and he didn’t want me to regret never having a wedding.
Ive been happily planning our small wedding. Lots of great details and personal DIY projects.
Not too sure what started the whole argument, but he blurted out “I really wish I insisted we elope. This wedding is such a waste of money!!”. I must have given the most powerful evil eye because he stepped back away from me like 3 steps lmao.
I wanted to elope and we compromised. Now he tells me something like this? I feel like everything is pointless now and he doesn’t even want any of this. I’ve worked so hard on everything and he has been great the whole process. Maybe he’s just as stressed as me and it sort of fell out of his mouth, but there must be some truth behind his words, maybe he doesn’t want the wedding.
Any bee’s experience something similar??
Post # 3
@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics: As long as you stay within your budget, you will not regret having a wedding! We were so desperate the we almost eloped but we are SO glad that we went ahead with the wedding. Hang in there and make sure you don’t lose sight of the purpose of this- Celebrating your love!
Post # 4
I would agree with you – he’s likely just really stressed out right now. I think we all get that way during wedding planning. Don’t let that deter you from being excited about your wedding, though! Trust me, it will all be worth it the day of the wedding, and you’ll be SO happy you went through with it! You guys are in the home stretch – it’s going to be awesome!
Post # 5
Don’t read too much into this; I tell my fiance every day that I wish we had eloped (he wanted the 100-guest wedding, I wanted a 10 people on a beach in Cuba). He knows that it comes from stress and I am happy planning our wedding. I know it’ll be worth it.
Post # 6
I won’t read too much into it. I’ve said it out of stress and frustration with plans (about a dozen times). I would just give him a little space. I sure the day will be perfect, and you will BOTH be happy you did it in the end.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy
@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics: we both wanted to elope… But we decided on an intimate family backyard BBQ…then his mom shamed me into throwing a wedding. A big one. In Italy…. Far away from my family who might have helped me.
Now, since I’m usually so no-fuss and have been rather stressed…and because his mom is so dramatic and talks non stop about the wedding….and because I know for a fact he would rather elope but is putting oN a game face for me…even though I WANTED to elope…. I feel like I can’t even talk to him about getting wedding stuff done. Or wedding stuff related emotion.
Post # 8
Don’t read too much into it weddings are stressful! If I had a dollar for every time my fiancé said he wished we eloped I’d be rich! When it cme down to it he absolutely loved our wedding day.
you could always do a private elopement beforehand?!
Post # 9
Sounds like something he just said out of frustration and anger…
Post # 10
“I wish we could just elope” said just about every man ever. Don’t overthink it hon, this doesn’t mean he won’t be happy on the day. Besides, can any of us honestly say we’ve never once thought, with all this work and stress and expense, that we wish we could just elope?
Post # 11
@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics: My husband told me that probably 4 times but now he doesnt regret it one bit. We had a small wedding and we both really enjoyed it.