- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Okay let me give you a backstory. I met our photographer (I’ll call him Jason here) back in college, he was a friend of my boyfriend’s at the time. We were actually roommates for awhile. When my ex and I broke up, Jason and my ex were not really very close anymore, but I ran into Jason a few times after that and he told me numerous times how he was happy for me and actually glad that I got out of that relationship, etc. Needless to say, they just weren’t really very close friends anymore. Jason took pro pics of me and my sister for a Christmas present for our parents and was super professional with us….treated us like a regular client.
Fast forward, 4 years later. EVERYONE involved has moved away and on with their lives from college town. I know that Jason is a photographer in a city 3 hours from where I live now, and I remember that he has family that live where I live. Last year we were having a hard time deciding on a photographer and HATED the ridiculous prices….and you don’t even get the rights to pictures. So I messaged Jason on Facebook and asked him if he’d be interested in shooting our wedding, and what his prices would look like.
He offered us his friends and family package. We’re getting him, plus a second shooter, ALL the rights to ALL the pictures, AND his photobooth, all for $1500!!!! I almost pooped my pants. At htis point I did KNOW that my ex and Jason live in the same town but I had no idea if they were friends still or not….and judging from how I left that relationship it seemed like they weren’t. I saw a few comments on Facebook back and forth but nothing indicating they still hang out or whatever. And either way, the ex and I broke up in 2007…
I let Fiance know that I know Jason from college and we were roommates. I didn’t dwell too much on THAT topic that we were friends through my ex….but I DID mention it. I was so excited to have a photographer that I TRUST completely and who’s giving us such a great deal!! Let me add here also that Fiance didn’t have ANY opinions on any photography stuff…he was blown away at the prices but wasn’t involved at all in the booking of any of our vendors.
Now let’s fast forward to this past Friday. Fiance went on the computer and my Facebook was up. One of the newsfeeds was Jason’s comment. Underneath his comment was a comment by my EX. They were talking about going out for a drink. So Fiance got pretty upset about all of this, saying that they’re obviously really good friends and that I should have known that and it’s going ot be so awkward and all that.
Fiance is uncomfortable with the fact that Jason and my ex are still friends (again, I had no idea and completely trust Jason that he’s super professional). I tried to talk Fiance through it and let him know that it should prove to him that I’m comfortable enough with it to book Jason that it should prove to him that Jason is super super professional and would treat us just like any other client. Also Jason knows my past with the ex and knows that there’s no way I’d want him to share our photos with the ex.
Fiance was so upset about htis he actually asked me if we’d be able to cancel with him and find another photog in ONE week!! Just to be nice I did check with one person I know who takes pictures, and she’s busy next Saturday….
So I explained to him again the reasons why I chose Jason and how cheap it is and I love his photography, and that I’m not sure we’d get our money back from him because we’ve alreayd paid him and he obviously didn’t book anything else this weekend because he has to travel to be here and stuff. UGH!!
Fiance seems to have “let go” of this a little after sleeping on it a few nighhts. But how can I make him feel better?
I’m considering calling Jason and kind of letting him know that Fiance is a little sensitive about it….but I’m not sure if I should even let him know that.
Should I just let it blow over and wait for Fiance to meet Jason and realize he’s a good guy?