- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
OP: He needs counseling to learn how to fight fair. He can’t just pretend his words don’t have meaning when they hurt you and your relationship. This won’t end with the wedding, he’s changed his threat before. Unless you want to spend your life being threatened any time you tick off your husband, he needs to learn to fight fair BEFORE you get married. If you don’t want to do counseling, sit him down and tell him how destructive and hurtful his threats are. Show him this: http://cmhc.utexas.edu/fightingfair.html and promise each other that you will follow it together. If one of you breaks a rule, the other should stop the fight and ask them to fight fair, and any violation needs to be apologized for. Good luck.