(Closed) FI wants a motorcycle…GRRRR!!! (vent)

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yikes! I’d tell him that first you have to pay off the current debt then SAVE up for the motorcycle before you get one – and come up with a plan on putting money aside for a new car for you.

i love my harley but I’d never go into debt for a toy (or anything really)!

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You two obviously have different financial styles and this is causing the argument. You guys need to sit down and figure out a compromise to live within or this is going to cause problems down the road. Finances are a major cause of divorce, imo, you two need to acknowledge that you have different styles and find the solution now before saying the I do’s. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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acglandorf:  When I first read your title I was like, “so?”. I was worried you were one of those women who was like OMG it’s so dangerous, noooOO! Then I read your post and I agree, the financial aspect definitely needs to be discussed and worked out before this happens. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’d put that wedding on hold until you can come up with a list of priorities and a budget you both agree on. Maybe that (eventually) includes a motorcycle, and maybe it doesn’t. 

I think finances are one of those dealbreakers (like kids and religion) you absolutely have to agree on. Problems don’t go away after marriage, I think they just get worse! Imagine trying to save for a house or kids’ college fund or retirement and him wanting a new truck or big screen tv.  It’d be a huge source of resenement and unhappiness, for both sides.  

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

ITA with TKS on finding a style you both agree on when it comes to spending. It can be a huge issue in marriages, especially when one person digs their heels in and really, really wants something.

 

 

Also, I am really put off by men who drive brand new cars with their SO’s drive around rusty clunkers. It’s probably just me, but it seems very selfish and “representative” of the relationship. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

 

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acglandorf:  You said you were hoping to get one for him as a wedding present. Were you going to save up for it or finance it? Whatever the case may be, maybe you could plan on taking care of the bill for him as a pre-wedding present? It wouldn’t be a surprise but maybe you could avoid World War 3 that way?

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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acglandorf:  He never goes and spends more money than we can afford.

If you have credit cards to pay off, washer dryer and other bills to pay, I’m going to beg to differ and say that he/you guys DO spend more than you can afford.  Leasing is a great option for those who just HAVE to have the newest car, but leasing has a pretty small mileage restriction too doesnt it?  So it can’t really go that far either, yet he gets to have a new car again and somehow justifies you driving your 10 yr old car?  Sounds pretty selffish.  And really, leases are a pretty big waste of money imo, just eternally car payments.  All this would not fly with me.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I’m sorry but if I were you I would be getting a new car before he got a new toy. He has a brand new car and getting you a safe more reliable car doesn’t seem to be a priority for him , that wouldn’t work for me.

Also if you have CC bills to pay there shouldn’t be anything that’s not absolutly necessary till those are paid.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

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acglandorf:  maybe rather than saying no because bills etc you should work out a time line with him for when he can get one so that he knows when it’ll happen and can look forward to it rather than keep bringing it up.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

If you have a lot of debt, are paying for a wedding (asking for assistance taboot) and multi-thousand dollar toy is a bad call. 

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