(Closed) FI wants to abstain…

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you are engaged, by biblical terms, that is basically married. There is gray area. It’s about the intent, since “marriage” as it is today isn’t the same as back then. Maybe you could discuss this with your pastor?

Post # 4
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1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Wow. That’s kind of a big decision for him to just drop on you like that! Is he gonna make all of the spiritual decisions for the both of you from now on? I really would’ve thought this’d be the sort of thing that really needs intensive discussion.

Post # 5
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I am having a similar situation. I was always conflicted but decided that i wanted to abstain once we got engaged. I know it sounds ridiculous especially becuase we have lived together for 3 years now but it was something that was very important to me . Now that we are engaged we are not abstaining but we are giong to for the last three months. Its not like I am trying to trick God or anything, I just want to really focus on connecting emtionally (we tend to use sex when we get frustrated/tired/needy).

Since you haven’t set a date, I think you really need to sit down and talk to your Fiance to find out if you are on the same page and if this is a decision you are both able to live with….

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