(Closed) FI wants to have a vasectomy.

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

Whoa, getting it reversed would be very difficult especially years later.  Frozen sperm doesn’t solve the issue, IVF isn’t 100% perfect.  Degradation of sperm could and I think does occur.  How about something less permanent?

Post # 4
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ya vasectomies are not easily reversed. He’s probably super freaked right now due to the pregnancy scare. Give him a couple of days to calm down, and then maybe look up the risks of the procedure and make sure he understands the long term implications of the surgery.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think you need to sleep on this one….for like, months!  Why not explore more serious birth control for yourself?  Like Implanon (or other birth control implants)

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

wow… yeah that is a huge step! one pregnancy scare is not worth getting a vasectomy over unless you are both 100% sure that both of you don’t want children. You can’t count of reversal, it just isn’t worth it to take the chance.

Waaaay to extreme of a measure… I agree with VirginiaMarie that there are better both control options that you could use that are not as life changing as your FI getting the snip snip!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t reccomend an IUD if you haven’t had children… it would be very painful. The shot (as long as it is taken at the right time… VERY IMPORTANT) is one of the best methods imo. You don’t have to worry about taking a daily birth control pill and forgetting, it just takes the guess work out.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Go see a different doc. My doc told me the same thing– that i couldn’t have an iud because i’d not had a kid. but i know several girls now that DO have them and I asked about it and they said their docs said that is a myth. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

IUD’s are inserted into the uterus, Implants like Implanon are placed into your arm and last 3 years.  I have some friends who have it in and love it. It’s not too big of a deal to insert, it’s just done in an office visit.  But I’m not sure if it’s recommended for women who have not yet had children. Look into it!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I agree reversals aren’t easy.  There are definitely other options.  I definitely would have been thrown through a loop.  Good luck talking it over!  I hope you guys figure things out easily.  

I have an IUD (and have never had children).  Some practitioners are comfortable putting them in and some aren’t.  It’s worked fine for me, I have 100% confidence in it, although if you already have heavy/painful periods I would avoid Paraguard and try Mirena if you want one.  Implanon might be another good option though I don’t have any experience with it.  Same with the Depo Provera shot.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

blech.. I saw pictures of getting an implantation put in/taken out and it just completely turned me off. It was quite graphic… thats just me though, I’m a bit squeemish :/

Post # 13
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

Yeah, I was saying IUDs or Shots.  I however encourage you to look into Fertility Awareness Method.

Post # 14
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

What about Nuvaring or the BC patch? Those are easier than remembering to take the pill everyday. A reversal is not always possible.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

//one of my close friend husband got it done about 5-6 years ago, and now that they want kids they are having problems getting it reversed. I don’t think it is a good option to go, if you are planning to have children  together in the future, like other bees mentioned there are other options.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

About freezing sperm…it is really expensive.  FI had some of his frozen before he started to undergo chemotherapy and his rich uncle pays to maintain it (it needs to be paid for every month, and degrades after a certain time…I don’t know the exact deets).  If you don’t have a rich uncle, that could be a problem. I think he’s paid like $2500 now just to maintain this sperm.  I keep urging FI to go to a clinic to see if he’s still producing sperm, but he won’t because he’s scared to know, so he’s just costing his uncle an arm and a leg for nothing, possibly. Heh.

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