FI wants to have sex on wedding night

posted 1 year ago in LGBTQ
Post # 2
5508 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

tamlin1234 :  I can’t relate but I’m wondering if you have talked to him about your worries? I can see how they are legitimate concerns. And how can you enjoy yourself if you feel self conscious? I can relate to that part 

Post # 3
3989 posts
Honey bee

This is an unusual first time post, but I’m going to assume this is real. Could you both agree to just fool around in other ways instead of full on sex?

I think your fiance would be surprised by how many people don’t even have sex on their wedding night! Everyone is usually exhausted, drunk, and just spent after all the preparation and socializing. Maybe you can talk to him about this, and just say you don’t want to force anything after what should be a very love filled day, even without sex. 

Post # 4
10093 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

There are a lot of different ways to have sex. I’ll leave it at that.

Post # 5
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Is penetration necessary? Lots of other options…

I mean, if I told my FH I wasn’t going to be able to eat because he wanted to bang later, he’d definitely be open to a BJ and me not being a hangry bitch all night.

Post # 6
3193 posts
Sugar bee

Shit happens.

Enjoy your wedding and make sure to eat!  At least 50%+ of my friends said they passed out from exhaustion at the end of the night and no sex was had.

Post # 7
27 posts

I’m a straight woman, but personally me and my boyfriend do anal without enemas (tried them and they just made me too sore to do anything else after) so we just get our groove on and sometimes he has to wipe a lil something off…it’s kind of normal to us if we’re going to play there, no biggie. Is not being clean down there something that bothers him specifically or you?

I suggest you talk with your partner about your worries and see if you can handle the dirty if you wanna do the deed or some other compromise. Definitely eat at your wedding! If for some reason I couldn’t eat at my wedding, I wouldn’t even care about pleasing my partner and having sex on our wedding night. I would be Godzillaing my way to the nearest Mcdonalds after hours!

Post # 8
1027 posts
Bumble bee

What about sex in the shower? Look into waterproof lubricants. Definitely eat at your wedding! It’s important you have just as much fun on your wedding day as your future hubby. 🙂

Post # 9
1512 posts
Bumble bee

I guess I don’t really understand issues with anal. We have it everytime we also have vag sex. And often on its own. I never plan it, or ‘time’ things or use enemas, and we’ve never had a big disaster. It you want to play in the sandbox, you are bound to get a little dirty but it’s minor and easily taken care of. 

Post # 10
1476 posts
Bumble bee

OP- you cannot not eat on your wedding day!!!! This is your FH- I’m sure he will understand and explore some options with you. 

Why not just hop in the shower when you get to the room? Or shower sex? Or find an alternative to penetration. 

You guys might not even have the energy by the end of the night anyway lol. Do not let this stop you from enjoying your day!!! Please eat!! 

Post # 11
6643 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

It’s great that he’s communicating with you what is important. He needs to also know that it’s important to you that you get to EAT at your wedding. Like slomotion said- there are many different ways to have sex.

Post # 12
3776 posts
Honey bee

This is a ridiculous post. It takes 24 to 72 hours for food to travel through your digestive system.

Post # 13
9050 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

Not eating at your own wedding is ridiculous. Speak to you Fiance about your concerns. 

Post # 14
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

talk to him! 
also…read up on the how-tos of it, it will alleviate your worries to get some information.

trust me when I say THINKING About sex (any variations of it) is wayyyyy more scary than doing it. also: use lube…get some nice lube that you both like, and tell him your fears, let him help ease you into it with foreplay and everything. 

you’re in this together. do not forget that. 

sex is something we can always laugh about, be awkward about, be honest about, because this is your lover for life. exploration and learning together can be so much fun, just relax about it – there are no “have to-s” and the more you don’t have a goal, the better it will all be. 

sometimes things can go really awkwardly with sex- ie. premature ejaculation, or going soft due to nerves etc, so it’s important to develop your trust and your ability to say “this feels weird” or whatever you’re feeling.

best of luck..and ENJOY every moment. eat the delicious things at your wedding. it will all be ok. 

Post # 15
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

p.s. if you like fanatasy fiction, here’s a great series that might help ease your worries. 
you have to read a while to get to it, but there is a lot in here about his sexual experiences.


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