(Closed) FI wants to help pay for Rehersal dinner

posted 8 years ago in Parties
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    Just let it go : (4 votes)
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    Talk to FI : (17 votes)
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  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Are they asking you to pay, or is this FI’s opinion alone? If FI’s alone, tell him that there is no reason to offer to pay for something when someone has already graciously offered to pay. If they are asking, show Fiance exactly what this money will come out of (flowers, food, decor, whatever) and explain why this makes you uncomfortable.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would speak up and give him your point of view – it isn’t like YOU demanded that 1/2 the wedding be invited, so you shouldn’t be on the hook to fund the rehearsal dinner!

    Post # 5
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    IS Fiance wanting to pay or has he been asked?

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper

    Hmm…I kind of see where he’s coming from. It just sort of sounds like his parents want to make the out of town guests feel welcome, and he wants to help out with that. I know it’s traditional to have the groom’s parents pay for the rehearsal dinner, but sometimes that’s just not feasible. From the way it sounds, it’s not only his parents that want to make sure all of the out of towners feel welcome, but he does as well. If it’s important to him, I would just let it go rather than making a big deal about it.

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I don’t think you all should pay…Future Mother-In-Law are paying and decided to feed all those people, therefore they must be ok with the costs. If they are not, then decrease the list!

    Post # 10
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    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I don’t think anyone could fault you for not offering to pay – you’re not hosting the party and if it were up to you, all these extra peeps wouldn’t be invited.

    If you explain to your Fiance he should back you up on this.  It sounds like you already have a share of the wedding expenses you need to cover and this would be taking money away from that.

     

    Post # 11
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    972 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Traditionally groom’s parents pay for rehearsal dinner, we’re not doing everything by a certain tradition but are your parents paying for the wedding?

    My Fiance is paying for the wedding because in my culture the groom has to, but he has still asked his dad to pay for the rehearsal and he said yes. Thank goodness!

    We are also having some out of towners come too, family that we havent seen in awhile.  Your fiance is being too nice, you need to save money for other things such as honeymoon and your future

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    My bff solved this problem by having just the bridal party and immediate faily for the rehearsal dinner then adding all the other out-of-towners for drinks/dessesrt after.  It’s the polite thing to do to include them since they traveled and gave up their weekend for your wedding, and breaking it up this way will save you some money.

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