Post # 1
Ok, this might make me seem like a bad person but I need advice on this one. My fiance and I met in grad school and he was in a program with about 20 other people so they were all pretty close, I got to know a lot of them and a good number are invited to our wedding. At the very beginning of our relationship we went to a show with a couple people from his program and I was talking to this one girl. She was complaining that she didn’t have a guy and I asked what she liked and she said my fiance’s name. Um.. awkward. Fast forward almost two years later and still every time we’re around her she touches him at any opportunity and is super flirty. My fiance knows how I feel about her but he insists she doesn’t like him and she’s just his good friend. She keeps asking about the wedding and my fiance is dreading telling her she’s not invited. She just gets under my skin, even though I know it’s completely irrational since I know he’s not interested and we’re getting married. But I don’t want him to have to feel so terrible. We just graduated and we are in a different state from her now so while they may run into each other because of their profession it’s not like it’ll make it weird for our group of friends on a daily basis. So what do I do? Suck it up and invite her for my fiance’s sake or keep my foot down on the issue?? THANKS!
Post # 3
@cmrobert: who cares if she is there or not. You are the one marrying him maybe it will be good and send her a clear message that he does not like her and she needs to drop the idea of liking him.
Post # 4
@cmrobert: …considering that you’ll have just entered to holy union of marriage with this man, and will be standing next to him in your wedding gown…I fail to see how some doe eyed girl can even come close to bothering you….
Post # 5
I wouldn’t want her there. Just…no. If a man is engaged and girlfriend is still fawning and flirting, I want her in a mental institution rather than at our wedding.
Post # 6
@cmrobert: She’s a slut, do NOT invite her..
Post # 7
Well that escalated quickly! LOL
Post # 8
haha that was a fantastic response
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
If she is his friend, it’s poor form to forbid her from coming if he really wants her there. that just makes you look insecure and controlling. It’s your wedding, she’s not going to steal him away.
I know there will be guys at my wedding who are into me, but no biggie, we all know its not happening. I’d be pissed if my Fiance forbid one of these friends from attending!
Post # 10
@Mokara: You caught that too right LOL… Wowzers.
OP I doubt if she’s still going to be angling for you FH two years later at his wedding. But do what you want.
Post # 11
@Nona99: I agree. She won’t even be a blip on the radar screen on your wedding day obviously he didn’t take her up on her offers while he was single and in grad school… so I think you’re safe! I would compromise on this one, because you may have a 2 second interaction with her at the actual wedding, and not worth any drama or looking like a possesive wife/FI
Post # 12
@inspiration86: lol yikes.. that’s a bit harsh.
OP, I would invite her. It’s not like they ever dated and it’s his crazy ex. Obviously he’s not into her or else he wouldn’t be marrying you. Plus, think of how awesome it’ll be for her to be sitting in the pew watching you, all gorgeous, marrying the man of your dreams! 🙂
Post # 13
I have to say, it would annoy me no end, especially if she behaved like that at the wedding. I would say, no, don’t invite her. It’s a special day to celebrate a huge committment in your relationship and you don’t need someone there that clearly doesn’t support it and wants to tear it apart so she can have your Fiance for herself.
I am just imagining her standing up and running to the front at the part where they ask if anyone has any objections! Lol!
Post # 14
How big is your wedding? I don’t know what it is like for everyone else but I will say that on my wedding day my Fiance and I were in “the zone” it was like nobody else existed but just the two of us! Of course we did our rounds to the tables and said hello to everyone but at the end of the day nobody else really mattered except us… I kind of felt bad afterward, like we didn’t pay too enough attention to certain people but I think that’s just the way it is!
I guess what I’m saying is that WORST CASE scenario- you invite her – it won’t be as big of a deal as you think!
Post # 15
@inspiration86: I am curious how you know this girl personally and know that she is, in fact, a slut.
Post # 16
Invite one of your old flames to hook her up with and see how he likes it.