(Closed) FI wants to invite a girl who is clearly into him

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
78 posts
Worker bee

@cmrobert:  who cares if she is there or not. You are the one marrying him maybe it will be good and send her a clear message that he does not like her and she needs to drop the idea of liking him.


Post # 4
5981 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@cmrobert:  …considering that you’ll have just entered to holy union of marriage with this man, and will be standing next to him in your wedding gown…I fail to see how some doe eyed girl can even come close to bothering you….

Post # 5
2566 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I wouldn’t want her there.  Just…no.  If a man is engaged and girlfriend is still fawning and flirting, I want her in a mental institution rather than at our wedding. 

Post # 7
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015


Well that escalated quickly!  LOL

Post # 9
9256 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

If she is his friend, it’s poor form to forbid her from coming if he really wants her there. that just makes you look insecure and controlling. It’s your wedding, she’s not going to steal him away.

I know there will be guys at my wedding who are into me, but no biggie, we all know its not happening. I’d be pissed if my FI forbid one of these friends from attending!

Post # 10
7448 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mokara:  You caught that too right LOL… Wowzers.

OP I doubt if she’s still going to be angling for you FH two years later at his wedding. But do what you want. 

Post # 11
5222 posts
Bee Keeper


@Nona99:  I agree. She won’t even be a blip on the radar screen on your wedding day obviously he didn’t take her up on her offers while he was single and in grad school… so I think you’re safe! I would compromise on this one, because you may have a 2 second interaction with her at the actual wedding, and not worth any drama or looking like a possesive wife/FI


Post # 12
777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@inspiration86:  lol yikes.. that’s a bit harsh.

OP, I would invite her. It’s not like they ever dated and it’s his crazy ex. Obviously he’s not into her or else he wouldn’t be marrying you. Plus, think of how awesome it’ll be for her to be sitting in the pew watching you, all gorgeous, marrying the man of your dreams! 🙂

Post # 13
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have to say, it would annoy me no end, especially if she behaved like that at the wedding. I would say, no, don’t invite her. It’s a special day to celebrate a huge committment in your relationship and you don’t need someone there that clearly doesn’t support it and wants to tear it apart so she can have your FI for herself. 

I am just imagining her standing up and running to the front at the part where they ask if anyone has any objections! Lol! 

Post # 14
225 posts
Helper bee

How big is your wedding? I don’t know what it is like for everyone else but I will say that on my wedding day my FI and I were in “the zone” it was like nobody else existed but just the two of us! Of course we did our rounds to the tables and said hello to everyone but at the end of the day nobody else really mattered except us… I kind of felt bad afterward, like we didn’t pay too enough attention to certain people but I think that’s just the way it is!

 I guess what I’m saying is that WORST CASE scenario- you invite her – it won’t be as big of a deal as you think!


Post # 15
5222 posts
Bee Keeper

@inspiration86:  I am curious how you know this girl personally and know that she is, in fact, a slut.

Post # 16
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Invite one of your old flames to hook her up with and see how he likes it.

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