FI wants to invite his ex

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I recently went to a wedding where an ex was invited and came. It was fodder for a good bit of gossip from the family.   I don’t know the whole story but it hadn’t been that long since the break up and they had been serious. Whatever. Not my business!

If she is part of his current friend group it seems like it might even be uncomfortable for him to invite all his other friends but not her. I guess it depends on the size of the guest list and how many of these old friends he is going to invite. It would be uncomfortable if he invited her but not other people from that friend group. 

Post # 47
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2021

 

elderbee :  Hahah wow! That’s horrible! 
She’s very nice and she’s really a wonderful friend to my SO. They mutually decided to part ways because they work much better as friends, so there’s no jealousy or regret involved. She really supports our relatonship too, she’s been rooting for us since day one (we’re in a LDR, hence why I’ve only spend a little bit of time with her). 
She’d deffo wouldn’t do that, haha! Thanks for humouring my day hahah!

Post # 48
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437 posts
Helper bee

Some of these comments about “insecurity” really irk me. Just because a woman doesn’t want uncomfortable, bad energy at her wedding does not mean she’s “insecure”. And I don’t care how you slice it, a past breakup is negative! You not wanting her there has nothing to do with insecurity on your part because it’s not like he’s going to go in the back somewhere and screw her one last time with you, feet away! It just means zero awkward moments for YOU and YOUR wedding especially since you’ve never met her before! I mean what are you suppose to do? Stand there and compare notes? I wouldn’t have that bs at my wedding! I also wouldn’t even think of asking that of my Fiance in return. To us, ex’s are part of the past where they belong. I think you already had your answer before you came here and I’ll just tell you, it’s fine to say “no” without considering yourself “insecure”. 

Post # 49
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9595 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

that is an absolute HELL NO. 

Post # 50
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924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I was the ex from college that went to my ex’s wedding, and he came to mine. It wasn’t weird at all. At the end of the day, it’s just a friendship. Nbd. 

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We invited my husband’s ex Girlfriend who is still part of his friend group, but she couldn’t make it. We hardly see her and I do feel a little awkward around her because my brain wants to picture them “together” if you know what I mean. Plus it’s a little awkward because we’re so happy and lovey-dovey together, we try to tone down the hand-holding and back rubs around her (and other single friends). But anyway, it didn’t bother me to invite her to the wedding, because the rest of her friends were also invited and because I knew she probably wouldn’t travel for it.

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