- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
I’m going undercover, as my regular bee name gives me away in real life.
This is probably going to be long and rambling…..just to warn you upfront.
I am so overwhelmed and saddened for my Fiance. He has 5 guys in his party (two brothers and three lifelong friends) They are going to be wearing plain black suits for the wedding, which they will be purchasing. We did a LOT of research to find a place with a good price. We spoke with each and every guy before making the final decision, and even TOLD them they could wear their own suit if they had one and didn’t want to purchase a new one. The suits are approx the same price as a tux rental. Long story short, this was back in Feb/March. As of today (in May), only ONE guy has gotten his suit. ONE. FI has told his guys they needed to get their measurements in months ago, and reminded them several times. Still, nothing.
To add to that, his best man is his brother. His brother has done nothing but make Fiance feel bad for every decision he makes regarding the wedding. All he cares about is the bachelor party….which Fiance does not want. At all. FI has told him at LEAST 8 times now that he doesn’t want the typical bachelor party, and if there had to be something at all, he wanted a co-ed one where everyone can just hang out. Well, the best man pretty much laughed in his face and said that’s lame and he was going to have a regular one. To top it off, over the weekend, best man called Fiance from a wedding (which we couldn’t attend), put their male cousin on the phone, and had THE COUSIN tell Fiance that his idea for a bachelor party was lame, and that he needs to “grows some balls” and have an all guy, stereotypical bash.
I honestly can not believe that his best man, his OLDER BROTHER, is basically talking trash behind my FI’s back to their relatives. And about a BACHELOR party! I mean, who CARES about the bach. party? He does not support our marriage or care about it at all…..all he cares about is this party. FI is LIVID and considering removing him from the party.
One side of me is thinking….yea, what a douche. Remove that @#$ from the party! But the more logical side of me says…it’s just not worth the long term family drama. He will always be his brother. Just take the rude comments in stride, ignore them, and just get through the day. FI isn’t going to show up to some bachelor party that he doesn’t want. I have no worries about that. But the way his Bridesmaid or Best Man is treating him is just WRONG.
What would you tell your Fiance to do in this situation? Suck it up and keep him as the Bridesmaid or Best Man, to save the relationship and long term? Or kick him out since he treats Fiance like garbage? I don’t even know what to say to my Fiance…..