(Closed) FI wants to start trying right after we get married.

posted 7 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

how exciting!  Well, I am Cycle 3 and I will give you advice from my doctor (which I have completely ignored, ha ha!)

As far as going off birth control (if you are taking any):

MD:  “Wait a few months for your body to regulate before you start trying to conceive. It can happen right away, but it’s better if you know what your cycles are like” 

Me:  IGNORE.  We started trying right away because once I make up my mind about something, I need it NOW.

 

MD:  Don’t start counting the months from when you start trying, because it can take a healthy couple 6 months – 1 year to conceive.

Me, one cycle in:  What is wrong with me?!?  Why can I not get pregnant? Will it NEVER HAPPEN???  

MD: Make sure you don’t stress

         well you get the picture, ha ha!   Soooo, try to have fun with it and don’t stress or get discouraged if it doesn’t happen right away ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Rouquine: are you on HBC? i’d consider getting off it now and allow your cycles to regulate. it can take some time for your body to get used to not having the horomones. I stopped in Aug, and I’m still not ovulating, almost 5 months later.

look into charting an NFP to avoid babies until after the wedding (if you’re comfortable going off HBC).

You might also want to start thinking about a prenatal vitamin. some ppl suggest starting it up to a year before TTC. I started in Jan and we’re planning to TTC in april. Darling Husband is also taking one. It takes about 3 months to create sperm, so he’s growing a batch of super healthy spermies for our TTC process ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Another factor that might warrant some consideration- do you already live together? If you don’t, you may want to get used to sharing with one other person, before you add to the family.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Rouquine: We had the same discussion the other night too, we had originally decided on waiting until our one year anniversary to start but after our convo we decided six months post wedding. Same situation too, Fiance is older than I am and “we aren’t getting any younger.” I think I will probably go off bc about three months before that six month start date to let my period figure itself out. I definitely get your feelings of thinking what if?!?!? I too am worried since I’ve been on bc for so many years. I’m just trying to remind myself that there’s still at least a year before we start so there’s no point adding even more stress on my plate (hello planning a wedding over here) by worrying about it now. Wishing you the best of luck!!!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh how exciting! Fiance and I have also talked about trying right after the wedding too and I can’t wait. I will be going off the pill after the wedding and getting my body used to no pills and see how it goes. I’m excited and nervous, twins run in the family yacks! Can u imagine me with twins?!?! My skinny me will tip over hehe

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Rouquine:

How great would it be if we both end up prego around the same time and with twins? Ahhhhhhh lol

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Pumpkin babies!!! So flippin exciting! Get married already woman!

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Rouquine:

I have total baby fever, my Maid/Matron of Honor just had a little girl last month and she is sooooo freaking cute, I want one.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Rouquine: Pre-natal vitamins are a good idea. I started them the month we started to TTC and I would have started sooner if I had known any better.

I would also suggest waiting a couple months after you are off BC to start trying. Just personal experience, knowing what I know now I would wait.

Try to not get stressed out. If you are a stresser try learning meditation or some thing else like that to help stay calm.It is a very fun exciting time but it can easily be turned around and not be so fun. So try not to let it get to you.

Have fun with it!! I tried to keep it as fun as possible for both of us… and also used it as a great excuse to buy new lingerie. If it turns into all business and no fun …. well then it is just no fun.

Good luck!

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

 

@Rouquine: haha omg baby shows and movies are evil ๐Ÿ˜‰ It would be awesome if you and couawilou were prego at the same time!!

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