(Closed) FI was let go today – vent

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I feel for you! I’d be just as upset.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Is there more history of him “fucking up” other jobs? Because IMO that’s kinda harsh..

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I understand. Just keep in mind that his failure is probably punishment enough, and chewing him out may just put you in the bitch category. This is a man, he has his man pride. If you have no doubt that he will be on the ball to be employed and is employable, I would let him handle this. But thats just my opinion. Just saying that it good to think about what you wish to achieve by chewing him out when you know he’ll need to fix his employment situation anyways. GL:)

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012
Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Don’t be so hard on him, it might not be entirely his fault. Unfortunately I’ve worked at plenty of places where they manipulate employees work so they can get rid of them based on performance. It’s aweful, they set up the employee to fail or make the environment so bad that they want to quit. It can be really difficult to avoid once they have you in their sights without playing hardball politics.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I have to agree with PP.. guys are usually kinda sensitive when it comes to their jobs. He has to feel horrible for getting fired. If it were me, I’d try to comfort him but still be assertive that he needs to get out there and find a job on Monday.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I don’t agree, I think he needs to get his act together. If someone is not happy with your work, you ask how you can make it better. You don’t take zero action. I’d be pissed too, OP.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Give him a break–getting fired is upsetting–he needs the weekend to mope and then get back on the job hunt on monday. If you’re angry with him because you think he got himself fired, at least wait a bit to lay into him about it—what good do you expect that to do? Is that how you would want to be treated right after you got fired?

Obviously he’s kicking himself for not seeing the writing on the wall-he doesn’t need you to throw it in his face. He probably didn’t realize that they were that unhappy with him and is only seeing it in retrospect.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Wow,he is going through a pretty rough spot today. You need to be more supportive.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sometimes people make mistakes, or they aren’t fitting in a certain work environment. It deosn’t mean he is a poor worker, necessarily. If my husband got fired, he would be so upset, and I would definitely give him a weekend to rest his mind, and recollect his thoughts and energy. I think you are punishing him, when it is your role to support him.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@LuckyClover:  He’s not talking about a 6 month recovery, he’s talking about over a weekend. It would probably be more beneficial for him in his search to take a few days to get his head together.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If me and my bf were in a position finantialy, I’d so be ok with allowing time for him (or me, if I was the one who lost a job) to heal. It’s hard when you’re tld that “you suck” essentially.

But if we lived paycheck to paycheck with VERY little wiggle room, I’d freak the hell out.

That on top of the OP’s knowledge of her husband’s job went from “It’s awsome I’m doing great” to “Well I was fired for performince issues they talked to me about that I didn’t fix” is a complete 180

Why not some to your wife with the things that happened? WHen she asked him ‘How was your day’ (which I’m sure she did) he clearly LIED and said ‘Oh it was great/fine/awsome’. Why didn’t he tell her he got written up? That’s not fine at all! Seems like theats info that a wife should know.

 

In a mater of minutes she goes from her weekend is almost here to, ‘Ok now you’re working on the weekends too plus another job and OT!’. All while her husband is at home not even looking for work. Why can’t he start looking on craigslist, spruce up his resume’, start thinking of a way to explain the sudden job loss now? Is he just going to sit at home and say “poor me” all weekend?

Now I know that people need time to process things. I can see taking the rest of the day off to settle. But 2+days to relax without doing anything to work to helping the bills get payed? I understand job loss is hard, but he lied to her and then pulled the rug out from under her and now wants time to relax

.He should never have lied to her It seems a bit selfish to me.

 

 

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