(Closed) FI was let go today – vent

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MissFireFlower:  He didn’t say that he had been written up, just that they had some complaints about his performance.

Post # 18
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1038 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@LuckyClover:  That sucks!  But he is not gonna be in the right frame of mind anyways to be job hunting right now.  He is likely at his lowest self confidence wise.  Do you really want him going and job hunting in that mindset?  Give him the weekend to lick his wounds.  I’m sure he already feels like crap enough as it is.  Put yourself in his position and how you would  want to be treated if the same situation was happening to you. 

 

 

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

In the situation you described OP, I would have done the exact same thing. And if roles were reversed, my hubby would have been equally mad at me. I guess that makes me a harsh witch that PPs are claiming you are.

Good for you for picking up the slack and keeping your family provided for. And for lighting a fire under your FI’s ass to look for a job 🙂 

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I agree with @punkin83:  .  OP,  to us, since we’re outside of the situation sounds like the frustration comes from him f’ing up in other areas.  

I read where you said you wanted to chew him out but not that you did, which is good. You have every right to feel the way you feel.   If you have time, get out of the house so he can have time to think for himself and you can do the same.  GL!

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You have every right to be upset!!! He was really irresponsible! WHEN YOU DON’T HAVE A JOB, YOUR JOB IS LOOKING FOR A JOB!

Darling Husband and I were in the same situation a few months ago and I held so much resentment towards him for allowign me to work 60 hours a week while he sat at home because he could pass a test for his job. I stayed on his ass about it! I’m sorry but it’s time to put on your big boy undies and get a JOB and KEEP IT!

He is currently employed at an awesome company that he LOVES!! and his wife is much happier lol

Post # 23
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yikes! You don’t sound very supportive. Have you ever been fired? It sucks regardless of the circumstances leading up to the termination. What he needs right now is for you to support him emotionally and let him ease into the job search. Three days isn’t going to make a difference anyway.

Post # 24
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@LuckyClover:  You posted this on the internet so you’re going to get feedback whether you like it or not. If you didn’t want to hear differing opinions, you should have written this in your diary. 

ETA: I realize this sounds bitchy but that wasn’t my intention. You just can’t expect to post on an internet forum without getting opinions.

Post # 25
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995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

umm this was a temp pt job ….wasn’t he trying to find another job anyway??

Post # 26
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10285 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@sylvia.riggle:  Good point.

My employer goes through temps like dirty underwear. There’s no guarantee of employment. Someone in a temporary position should always be looking for full time work since their current job more than likely won’t last. 

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

To ME, the biggest problem was that he had some idea that he could get fired (the discussions the employer had with him) and did nothing about it while you two are in the middle of wedding planning and paying! It reeks of irresponsibility and distrust–why wouldn’t he tell her anything in 2 months?

Yes it is not easy for a man to tell his partner he has been disciplined at work, but this is what a relationship and marriage is about, honesty and support. My Fiance occasionally makes mistakes at work (who doesn’t) and he always tells me about them, even if he did not get a “talking to”. We discuss ways to make it better and I always say that as long as he learns from his mistake he shouldn’t be so hard on himself and move on, tomorrow is a new day.

And you are NOT a bitch OP!

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am a little suprised by the responses on this thread and the fact that no one has mentioned that your FH seems to have emotional and or communication issues.  Not only not discussing his problems with you re: work but having issues in previous situations?  I mean who takes their boss ‘talking to them’ as oh, ok….da da da go on with my day now…. I’m not trying to be Debbie Downer , if you were a good friend of mine I would have to question the maturity level of this guy and his ability to support YOU (I dont mean financially). 

When he starts looking hardly matters since now a days application time & interviews can be weeks apart.  My heart goes out for you while dealing with growing together to a healthy point of good communication!  Has he had any luck finding a new position? 

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am so sorry to here this!

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