- 6 years ago
And he decided to come tell me while I was at work, with my boss and co-worker in ear-shot. He said he just went to the lawyer and that we’ll get it when she’s done, I have to take it to my lawyer and then sign it.
I didn’t say much at the office, as my desk is at the front and didn’t want to make any trouble if a client walked in. Not to mention, with my co-workers around. I stewed about it ’til the end of the day when I could phone my family and find out if I should use the lawyer they use, and vent.
Obviously, I’m not happy about this one iota. He didn’t discuss this with me, AT ALL. He mentioned to me once, probably a year ago, before we got engaged, that he’s thought about getting a pre-nup when he got married. THATS IT! So, without sitting down and discussing our finances, he decided to go straight to a lawyer.
I had a quick conversation over the phone asking him what the hell he’s thinking. His excuse, “I didn’t think it was that big of a deal.” and “I didn’t want to say anything until I knew for sure something could be done.” WHAT?! That doesn’t even make sense! So, you’ll go and make this big decision, without me knowing, behind my back, and wouldn’t have told me anything if you couldn’t get one??
I’m mad, upset, and numb all at the same time. I don’t even know if I want to stay with him anymore. I feel like he doesn’t trust me (even though he claims he does) and that he’s setting us up for failure. I would have been okay with discussing a pre-nup MONTHS ago, not him throwing it at me 2 weeks before our wedding!! I want to say that if his biggest worry right now is that IF something happens, that I’m going to take everything from him, when he knows I DO NOT want his money even NOW, then we need to sit down and decide if this marriage is going to work. He’s not at home right now, and I kind of wish he wouldn’t come home ’cause I feel like I’ll leave…
Am I out of line, here Bees?! Should I be this upset about this?! Am I overreacting?? Enlighten me…