Post # 1
Just a venting a bit because I’m trying very hard to not flip out on my ever-wise fiance. Last week he was really run down and on Tuesday a fairly high fever cropped up. He stayed at home on Wednesday and his fever broke, but he developed a really bad cough and we can actually hear the crap that’s rattling around in his lungs. He is coughing his damn brains out and it’s starting to really hurt his chest wall.
The Sunday before he got sick he had to go look at Alzheimer’s care facilities with his mom who is planning on moving her father into one in the area. He was pretty sure he picked something up while being around all the old people in these facilities. He did some symptom checking and thought maybe it was the flu or pneumonia. Being that he’s going to med school, he sometimes thinks he’s above seeking medical care and thinks he can suss out his own recovery period on his own. He’s also a “I’ll just eat an orange and drink some OJ instead of taking medicine” person. So annoying because he could feel better with some meds!
Anyway, almost a week later and he feels fine, no fever, but this cough and stuff in his lungs is still there and he is coughing really violently. Clearly, the lung congestion is not something that will clear up on it’s own, and I think it’s an infection. I’ve been asking him to please call the doctor but he’s all “I might. I’ll try. Maybe I’ll call” blah blah blah. Um, hello, stupid??? You’re coughing shit up out of your LUNGS and we can hear it rattling around in there when you breathe. Even regular breaths are starting to hurt your chest because you’ve strained all the muscles in there.
Why, oh why does he think he knows best?? He had the nerve to get mad at me this morning for asking him again to please call. I swear I might slap him.
Post # 3
Has he tried mucinex? Also, what color is the stuff he’s coughing up?
Post # 4
No, because he wont’ try ANYTHING. Mucinex is a good idea though, I’ll suggest it (not that he’ll take me up on it). My mom and brother swear by Mucinex. I think it’s white, I’m not sure though.
Post # 5
Well, white-ish, yellow, or even brown is better than green!! See if he won’t try the mucinex…it’s the best compromise between doing nothing and having an actual doctor’s appointment. Give it a week on the mucinex & if he doesn’t at least improve, he should really see someone. And now you know why they say doctors make the worst patients!
Post # 6
@DaneLady: Thanks!! I haven’t seen what he’s coughing up except for once and it looked white. I’ll ask him later though, you’d think he would know when it should be of a concern and when it shouldn’t. Call me crazy, but I feel like any time you are coughing things up from your lungs you should, oh I don’t know, go to a doctor to get some meds??
I’ll try to sell him on the Mucinex, but I’m fully prepared for him to say “nah, i’m just gonna eat this orange”, like they are some magical, miracle working fruit.
Post # 7
Yikes, it sounds as though he may have developed bronchitis. I did this once, refused to see a doctor for the same thing, until finally my co-workers threatened to kidnap me and take me themselves, so I went. Turned out I had a horrible chest infection and the doctor told me I could have died from waiting so long. I had to be on about four different meds and two inhalers. Breathing is nothing to mess with. He’s being ridiculous. Good luck with this, I hope you can talk some sense into him. Better yet, get someone else to tell him he’s being foolish since he’s getting mad at you for it. I know I was stupid to wait so long before but I would never do that again. I ended up missing way more work than I would have if I’d just nipped it in the bud to start with.
Post # 8
@Sunfire: Yikes!! Thank goodness someone was able to convince you to go! Hadn’t even thought of bronchitis…that sounds like what it may be, though I really don’t know.
Your story reminds me of something my cousin did…a newish coworker of hers was talking about how terrible she felt, etc., etc. My cousin was telilng her “just wait it out, the doctor will end up being way more expensive than necessary. It’s just a cold”. They don’t have great health insurance, so she thought she was helping this girl out by saving her money. Come to find out, the girl put off going to the doctor for days and days and then she went and she had mono AND strep!! We dubbed my cousin “worst non-doctor ever” and no one takes any health advice from her!
Post # 9
To be completely honest I am on your husbands side. We take too many meds in our society. Most of the time it is just a viral infection, which you can’t medicate, so I give myself 10 days for my body to fight the infection by itself. Obviously your FI’s initial infection was viral due to him no longer having the fever etc. Whether or not the respiratory infection is also viral is unknown at this point.
Doctors appreciate if you wait 7-10 days before coming in to help rule out viral; but, it still can be viral even at 10 days.
If I were him and I was still feeling aweful at 10 days I would go to the doctor but if I was starting to feel better I would let me body take care of business.
Post # 10
I sympathize with you. My guy isn’t a doctor or going to med school, but he’s terrible about going to the doctor. What makes is bad is that it’s a phobia that’s going to get worse until he’s 43. (He’s 38 now.) His mom got breast cancer very young, so he spent most of his childhood watching her battle cancer when treatments were far more harsh than they even are today. He thinks he’ll get better once he’s past 43 since that’s the age where his mother died. Until then, it just gets worse and worse. I have to hold his hand in private. I have to reassure him constantly. It’s incredibly stressful on me once I manage to convince him to go.
Post # 11
Gosh! The first thing I thought when I saw this post was, “Isn’t her Fiance in med school?” I don’t blame you for being super frustrated. I know in the past, even after I’ve gotten over something myself, I’ve still had to go to the doctor for a cough that persists — and it’s always resulted in a prescription and the doctor telling me that I wouldn’t have been able to kick it on my own. 🙁
Post # 12
Quote – but this cough and stuff in his lungs is still there and he is coughing really violently.
A guy I know coughed so much and so violently he literally BROKE 2 of his ribs..So unless you want that to deal with, I would slap him across the head and tell him to wise up!
Post # 13
I agree with @FMM: My brother in law is a doctor and very rarely takes any medication nor does he like to give medicine to his kids. He told me that our society takes way too much medicine and we arent away how strong a lot of these drugs are and how they affect our system. he tries to avoid medicine as much as possible especially with colds and the flu that usually just heal themselves with time and good diet
Post # 14
I hate going to the doctor and I hate taking meds too. Lots of things can be cured with other things besides medicine. Having mucus in his chest could be signs of lots of things, and may not be an infection, if it’s not green. I would let it ride out for awhile and see what happens. As long as he doesn’t have a fever, it’s probably nothing worth worrying about.
Post # 15
@MrsDrRose612: Yeah, I’m also a big believer in letting the body naturally heal itself and taking loads of vitamin C. I don’t like taking antibiotics or going to the doctor ever. However, there is also such a thing as being stupid and putting yourself at risk. I hope he’s going to be ok . . .
Post # 16
Unfortunately men are notorious for not going to the Doctor. We’ve lived in this town for over 3 years and my SO still hasn’t even registered! that’s the first thing I did when we moved!!
I have nagged and nagged and nagged and he always says he will but never does. it’s just one of those men traits.
luckily he’ll still be able to get an emergency visit if anything gets THAT serious – but it is frustrating.
Did you know that UK ‘celebrity doctor’ Dr Christian Jesson, presenter on Embarrassing Bodies – a TV show which urges people to see professionals about their problems – got really bad stomach pains and still didn’t get it checked out? A few days later he had to go to the hospital because his appendix was about to burst!!!!!
It’s definitely a man things. Crazy men.