(Closed) FI won’t call or go to the doctor. Makes me want to punch him

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Has he tried mucinex?  Also, what color is the stuff he’s coughing up?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well, white-ish, yellow, or even brown is better than green!!  See if he won’t try the mucinex…it’s the best compromise between doing nothing and having an actual doctor’s appointment.  Give it a week on the mucinex & if he doesn’t at least improve, he should really see someone.  And now you know why they say doctors make the worst patients!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yikes, it sounds as though he may have developed bronchitis.  I did this once, refused to see a doctor for the same thing, until finally my co-workers threatened to kidnap me and take me themselves, so I went.  Turned out I had a horrible chest infection and the doctor told me I could have died from waiting so long. I had to be on about four different meds and two inhalers.  Breathing is nothing to mess with.  He’s being ridiculous.  Good luck with this, I hope you can talk some sense into him.  Better yet, get someone else to tell him he’s being foolish since he’s getting mad at you for it.  I know I was stupid to wait so long before but I would never do that again.  I ended up missing way more work than I would have if I’d just nipped it in the bud to start with. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

To be completely honest I am on your husbands side. We take too many meds in our society. Most of the time it is just a viral infection, which you can’t medicate, so I give myself 10 days for my body to fight the infection by itself. Obviously your FI’s initial infection was viral due to him no longer having the fever etc. Whether or not the respiratory infection is also viral is unknown at this point.

Doctors appreciate if you wait 7-10 days before coming in to help rule out viral; but, it still can be viral even at 10 days.

If I were him and I was still feeling aweful at 10 days I would go to the doctor but if I was starting to feel better I would let me body take care of business.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I sympathize with you. My guy isn’t a doctor or going to med school, but he’s terrible about going to the doctor. What makes is bad is that it’s a phobia that’s going to get worse until he’s 43. (He’s 38 now.) His mom got breast cancer very young, so he spent most of his childhood watching her battle cancer when treatments were far more harsh than they even are today. He thinks he’ll get better once he’s past 43 since that’s the age where his mother died. Until then, it just gets worse and worse. I have to hold his hand in private. I have to reassure him constantly. It’s incredibly stressful on me once I manage to convince him to go.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper

Gosh! The first thing I thought when I saw this post was, “Isn’t her Fiance in med school?” I don’t blame you for being super frustrated. I know in the past, even after I’ve gotten over something myself, I’ve still had to go to the doctor for a cough that persists — and it’s always resulted in a prescription and the doctor telling me that I wouldn’t have been able to kick it on my own. 🙁

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

Quote – but this cough and stuff in his lungs is still there and he is coughing really violently.

A guy I know coughed so much and so violently he literally BROKE 2 of his ribs..So unless you want that to deal with, I would slap him across the head and tell him to wise up!

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with @FMM:   My brother in law is a doctor and very rarely takes any medication nor does he like to give medicine to his kids. He told me that our society takes way too much medicine and we arent away how strong a lot of these drugs are and how they affect our system. he tries to avoid medicine as much as possible especially with colds and the flu that usually just heal themselves with time and good diet

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@FMM:  ditto

I hate going to the doctor and I hate taking meds too. Lots of things can be cured with other things besides medicine. Having mucus in his chest could be signs of lots of things, and may not be an infection, if it’s not green.  I would let it ride out for awhile and see what happens. As long as he doesn’t have a fever, it’s probably nothing worth worrying about. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsDrRose612:  Yeah, I’m also a big believer in letting the body naturally heal itself and taking loads of vitamin C.  I don’t like taking antibiotics or going to the doctor ever.  However, there is also such a thing as being stupid and putting yourself at risk.  I hope he’s going to be ok . . .

Post # 16
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Helper bee

Unfortunately men are notorious for not going to the Doctor. We’ve lived in this town for over 3 years and my SO still hasn’t even registered! that’s the first thing I did when we moved!!

I have nagged and nagged and nagged and he always says he will but never does. it’s just one of those men traits.

luckily he’ll still be able to get an emergency visit if anything gets THAT serious – but it is frustrating.

Did you know that UK ‘celebrity doctor’ Dr Christian Jesson, presenter on Embarrassing Bodies – a TV show which urges people to see professionals about their problems – got really bad stomach pains and still didn’t get it checked out? A few days later he had to go to the hospital because his appendix was about to burst!!!!!

It’s definitely a man things. Crazy men.

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