Post # 1
My soon to be husband must be pretty excited, because he won’t stop posting damn play by plays to FB. We share a FB page and has been updating it for wedding count down.
I am sorry I did not know I had a groom that acts like a freaking bride.
I had to do damage control today he posted something and a friend replied with “wheres my invite”. Great Michael way to go. She is a good freind but however we are having a small venue and we had to choose very carefuly on who we picked as our guests.
So I have told him 4 times STOP GIVING PLAY BY PLAY’S. Not everyone is as excited as we are silly, so don’t post something everyday about our wedding.
Anyone else have over excited grooms?
Post # 3
@SnowBunny420: My FI sends mass texts to his friends about planning, however thankfully, most of them are actually invited. I’ve actually found myself biting my tongue on FB with wedding planning as I have read nightmare stories on the Bee where Bees would overshare wedding info, and random people thought they were invited OR would give annoying unsolicited advice… I think it’s best to limit FB use before the wedding – maybe suggest that to your FI? It’s cute that he’s excited though!
Post # 4
Not over excited, but out of nowhere two weeks ago he decided he wanted centerpieces. HUH? We decided ages ago that because our venue has candles that we’ll just go with them, but then he was worried about the tables looking bare so I had to go around to florists and arrange for center pieces. Crazy!
Post # 5
@SnowBunny420: As a side issue, I would get separate facebooks. It’s really frustrating when you see a post and you don’t know which person it’s coming from – if I reply, am I replying to my old school friend, or her husband who I’ve never met?
Also that way he can make a fool of himself on facebook and it’s not your problem 🙂
Post # 6
@SnowBunny420: Awe let him be that sound soooooo awesome
my groom is so mellow … he goes what ever will make you happy … if it is what you want i will love it … he so chill lol i am gitty lol … i wanna fb but i am being mellow still TILL WE SET THE DATE … i want a photo shoot and save the dates and yay but ya lol … anyways its great he is so in it
Post # 7
@paula1248: We have had it for years, and it does not seem to bother anyone but maybe you.
Post # 8
Whenever I wanted to post something on FB about wedding plannin I would just text my BFF instead. I really didn’t want advice or peiole thinking they were invited when they were not.
As for couple’s FB…ywah tha irks me sometimes. At least put an initial or something after your post so you know who is posting. My mom and her DH do that or they will say “mom here….lalala”.
To answer your original question no, my DH was not over excited to that degree.
Post # 9
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Post # 10
Yeah, I think it’s awkward and kind of showy to advertise too much wedding stuff on Facebook to people who aren’t invited. Then it opens the door to people wondering why they weren’t invited.
As another PP mentioned, getting separate accounts could solve part of the problem. Then he can go crazy with posts and you are somewhat removed from the backlash.
@feufighter: I agree, I find them a little odd as well. Even people in a relationship are individuals….so why not do separate accounts? If you want to show you are connected then use the relationship status feature.
Post # 11
@paula1248:@feufighter: +100, I think it’s soo weird when people share a facebook (or an email! so wtf!) It’s not like you have to pay for it, just make your own darn page.
Post # 12
@paula1248: agreed. Huge pet peeve of mine too!
Post # 13
FI and I were just talking about oversharing about wedding planning on FB today. Not from us, but my cousin is getting married next year, and my aunt is constantly posting on FB about her wedding. Today she was posting about having the venue booked, the date and time of the wedding, and all these details about how she was going to hem my cousin’s dress for her. Someone commented and asked if the family was invited (I guess he’s from my aunt’s family), and she was like “yes everyone’s invited, hope they can come!” Well, we have a big family, I’m pretty sure my aunt has a big family (super extended with step siblings and such), and just today my cousin was telling me they are keeping their guest list to 75 because she and her FI are paying. I was like WTF aunt…why are you airing all of this on FB, and promsing invites to people? Ugh. I’d be so mad if my mom did that!
Post # 14
You should let him know that it’s rude to be posting about an event he doesn’t plan on inviting his whole friends list too. Let him know he is hurting peoples feelings and making you both look bad.
Post # 15
he didnt about the wedding, but my DH wants to overshare about my pregnancy. I have tried to tell him that just because we have a monthly ultrasound it doesnt mean that his friends are interested in it (i mean lets be honest, people will feign interest for the first one but they arent particularly invested in it)
maybe you can get him to make a special friends list of people invited, and some statuses can be posted so only they see it (i think?). so he can indulge in his desire to share and it wont get awkward?
Post # 16
@JrzyGurl: I don’t think it is rude to share about getting married. I think it is more rude to assume you should be invited. But we don’t see eye to eye on a whole lot do we?