(Closed) fiance acting distant before wedding, is it normal?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Uh, maybe. I know I was different before our wedding, and I think my now-husband might have been reacting to that. I’m guessing he is probably just stressed because it is a big deal, but I don’t know because you didn’t provide a ton of back story… Like is he usually like this before big events? How long has it been like this? Do you have any reason to believe it could be something else?

Post # 5
Member
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, my husband didn’t care too much about the wedding other than who was going to be groomsmen for him, and what he got to wear. So that should make you feel better. Weddingbee is actually really great because people here care about your wedding details, and if your man isn’t interested, you can always discuss it on here.

Now if he won’t talk to you about other things, then you may have a problem. Why would his family try to make things difficult for you two? He could just be annoyed with them, and trying to not unload on you. You kind of made it sound like he is/was in the army, and now he is back? I know that can make some people change. And also, do you not currently live near him? If you do, maybe you could try taking him out for some pizza or wings and just talking about something he loves. Its football season, and the NBA season just started.

I’d say it could also be normal for him since he isn’t generally expressive. But like I said, I wouldn’t push wedding stuff on him, and I’d let him have what he wants when it comes to the wedding if it isn’t too big of a deal (my husband wanted to wear a bolo tie, which I hate, but it made him happy).

Post # 6
Member
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Definitely doesnt sound good.

How long have you been with him?

Post # 8
Member
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hm. I dont know. I would think if u are getting married you would be super close and be able to talk to eachother about it

Post # 9
Member
1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Not normal. Talk to him about it.

Post # 10
Member
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Just ask. You don’t have to be pushy about it, but communication is #1 in any relationship

Post # 11
Member
105 posts
Blushing bee

It’s a HUGE commitment, and people react differently to transitions (excited, anxious, avoidance, depressed).  He could just be feeling all of these things and perhaps the subject of the wedding and seeing you brings it all up for him.

You need to talk to him.  He needs to explain himself, even if he is not an expressive person.  Communication is one of the key parts of a healthy relationship.  If he’s not willing to, then you might want to really think about the commitment you are making to someone who is not going to be open with you.

Post # 12
Member
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I know Darling Husband was pretty distant right before the wedding, but it was because he was working crazy hours trying to tie up loose ends before the wedding and honeymoon. He was distracted so that he could focus on the wedding itself when he needed to rather than thinking “Oh shoot, I forgot to email _____ and I have to call _____ to finish up that job/paperwork”. I was pretty wrapped up in the last minute things as well, but so long as I got to go to sleep beside him every night I knew everything was fine. I would just check in with him and make sure he’s okay, that his stress levels are fine, see if there’s anything you can do to help. It’s a life changing time, everyone reacts differently!

The topic ‘fiance acting distant before wedding, is it normal?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors