Post # 1
I know i have serious trust issues. I’ve never been cheated on yet have lots of jealousy and insecurity.
My fiance will for the next year or two have to work closely with a woman. They will have to work exclusively on an assignment together. Would this make anyone jealous? I wish i could figure out what is wrong with me..there is nothing i can do in this situation except for suck it up and trust my fiance. (my fiance is a very nice straight edge loving guy-no reason to even hint that he would cheat)
Post # 3
I think you just gave yourself great advice. And personally I would seek independent therapy to find out what really is the root cause for these feelings because its obviously nothing to do with his behavior.
Post # 4
Uh, no. Since you’re aware you have some issues you should seek therapy to straighten them out. They’re not going to go away by themselves, considering they haven’t and your fiance hasn’t given you any reason to not trust him. This type of thing will undoubtedly ruin your relationship someday if you don’t get it under control.
Post # 5
Therapy! I have trust issues as well and they are ridiculous. Therapy seems like the only good option.
Another thing might be to mention it to him and tell him that you feel silly and you know it is unreasonable to feel that way, but could he find ways to make you more comfortable with the situation? Such as introducing you to the coworker, not doing after hours or home visits, etc?
Post # 6
My fiance works closely with a woman who is his favorite coworker. He even calls her his “work wife.” Doesn’t bother me. I’ve met her and she’s very smart and I can see why my fiance would be friends with her. She has a very similar personality to two of his male best friends. If I had any reason to suspect he was cheating, maybe I might suspect her, I dunno, but I don’t. We both have opposite-sex friends. I am having one of my male friends be a “bridesman,” and several male friends will be attending my bachelorette party. I don’t have romantic or sexual feelings toward any of them, and I assume if I am capable of having male friends without wanting to jump their bones (or them mine), then my fiance is capable of having female friends without wanting to do that.