(Closed) Fiance and coworker

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you just gave yourself great advice. And personally I would seek independent therapy to find out what really is the root cause for these feelings because its obviously nothing to do with his behavior.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Uh, no.  Since you’re aware you have some issues you should seek therapy to straighten them out. They’re not going to go away by themselves, considering they haven’t and your fiance hasn’t given you any reason to not trust him. This type of thing will undoubtedly ruin your relationship someday if you don’t get it under control.

Post # 5
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951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@deetroitwhat:  +1

Therapy! I have trust issues as well and they are ridiculous. Therapy seems like the only good option.

Another thing might be to mention it to him and tell him that you feel silly and you know it is unreasonable to feel that way, but could he find ways to make you more comfortable with the situation? Such as introducing you to the coworker, not doing after hours or home visits, etc?

But mostly…therapy!!!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My fiance works closely with a woman who is his favorite coworker. He even calls her his “work wife.” Doesn’t bother me. I’ve met her and she’s very smart and I can see why my fiance would be friends with her. She has a very similar personality to two of his male best friends. If I had any reason to suspect he was cheating, maybe I might suspect her, I dunno, but I don’t. We both have opposite-sex friends. I am having one of my male friends be a “bridesman,” and several male friends will be attending my bachelorette party. I don’t have romantic or sexual feelings toward any of them, and I assume if I am capable of having male friends without wanting to jump their bones (or them mine), then my fiance is capable of having female friends without wanting to do that.

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