(Closed) Fiance and I arguing over wedding night plans. Help?

posted 4 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 2
4053 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I haven’t got married yet but I can’t imagine leaving for a flight right after a long day. im sorry but I’m with you on this. I don’t think he realizes now tired he’s going to be… What time are u guys planning on waking up the morning of the wedding? I just think u both are gonna be exhausted and I don’t blame u for not wanting to rush 

Post # 3
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Tough spot. Since it’s a daytime wedding, it’s hard to tell how tired you’re going to be after the wedding. Will you have errands to run after the wedding? Will you have time to spend with your family and friends before and during the wedding? On the flip side, 7 days is not a lot of time for a wedding and international honeymoon. 

Have you compared prices in the flights? That could be an influential factor. 

Post # 4
2766 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m with him on this one. Buuuut I think receptions are to be with friends and family but afterwards? Newlyweds’ time! No family!!

Post # 5
7430 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

There might not be any daytime flights from the U.S. to Barcelona (I’m assuming you’re in the US) so it might come down to whether you want to miss a day  in Barcelona or not.

Post # 6
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

What time does the flight depart that night?

What time does the flight depart the next morning?

Post # 7
2711 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Yeah, flight times would decide it for me.  Also, even if you did fly overnight, how much sleep are you going to get on the plane?  You might get to Barcelona in the morning but if you’re a zombie, what’s the point?  Surely you’d be better to get a good night’s sleep in a hotel then fly the next day so you can actually enjoy your first day in Barcelona.

Post # 8
7642 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Soon2ElopeBee:  I agree. Have extra family time BEFORE the wedding, but the minute you leave the reception, you’re on your honeymoon.

Personally I’d prefer to leave the next day, but not so I can spend time with relatives. If you do spend the night in a local hotel, spend it alone. Perhaps a hotel near the airport and then an early flight?

Post # 9
5 posts
  • Wedding: June 2015

Your wedding should be abouth you and your (future) husband. Family and friends are joining to celebrate your night, but you shouldn’t be that concerned with pleasing them and/or spending time with them. I think your Fiance is right about wantin to leave that night to your honeymoon. If you’re tired, you can sleep on the plane. If you want extra family time, either arrange an earlier time for it or save it for when you return. Your Fiance probably has high expectations with traveling abroad with you, and I think you should let him be with this. Maybe he planned something, or he just can’t wait to be with you on a new adventure.

Post # 10
1481 posts
Bumble bee

applepie15:  what time is departure? i think getting to the hotel,,,,getting checked in..,then waking up and traveling to the airport the next day would be more hassle then just flying right away.  Also I think leaving for the honeymoon right away is soo romantic! I love your choice of Barcelona! hope you guys can work it out! 

Post # 11
3225 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

applepie15:  if he had more than 7 days I would agree with you, but no way would I travel overseas for less than a week anyway (2 weeks minimum is necessary IMO), so I’m with him and would get there asap. 

Post # 13
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I couldn’t imagine leaving after my wedding. I didn’t even want to leave the next morning and didn’t. I was exhausted and had a lot of lose ends to tie up after the wedding I can’t imagine dealing with the stress of flying and making sure everything was packed and ready right after the wedding literally. I also really value my time with friends and family and the time after the wedding when we all hung out and brunch the next morning was some of my favorite time, so I’m with you. Especiallu if people are flying out for your wedding and won’t be there to spend time with you in a week when you get back, it’s not exactly the kind of thing you can push off. It either happens or it doesn’t. Just depends whats important to you

Post # 14
2178 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think that before you discuss this you need to find out what your options are cause I only see 2 flights (direct) from JFK to BCN (looks like you are a LI bee) – a 5:25 and a 7:30 and unless your reception is literally at the airport hotel I don’t see how you could make either one with a wedding ending at 6pm


Post # 15
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We just got married and had an evening weddding. Married at 530PM, send off was at 1045PM and then we drove directly from Savannah, GA to Atlanta, GA to catch our 5AM flight. It was SO WORTH IT. I know you think you’ll be so sleepy – and I was – BUT. It was SO NICE to be in the car with my new husband and talk about the crazy of wedding weekend. It was our first chance to really TALK about our feelings before the ceremony, how we felt about the linens, how yummy dinner was, how we couldn’t believe so and so actually danced…ETC.

We definitely loved our trip to the airport and the trip was one of my favorite few moments of our marriage so far! You get to sleep on the flight – and you’ll be so excited that you won’t be ready to sleep, anyhow. 🙂

Definitely talk about your expectations of the trip, but I wouldn’t have wanted to wait a day. LOVED our trip!

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