(Closed) Fiance and I arguing over wedding night plans. Help?

posted 4 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 16
7103 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

In a perfect situation with plenty of time off I’d say for sure, just grab a flight the next day or even a couple days later. With your situation I’m with him on this one. With so many limited days off for wedidng & honeymoon – and the distance to Barcelone….I’d definitely catch an overnight flight straight from the reception. Yes, you’ll be exhausted from the day, but if your reception ends at 6pm, it would be the perfect way to get on the flight and take a melatonin and just sleep the whole flight.

Post # 17
1980 posts
Buzzing bee

I’d much rather sleep on the plane than have to wake up early to catch a flight and then waste a day in airports. With his limited time off, I’d also leave ASAP.

Post # 18
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Our reception ended at 5pm. All flights out of the closest airport to us to Aruba left at 6am. We opted to leave Monday morning because we would have felt way too rushed to pack everything up to leave that early the next morning. I’m glad we had the extra day. 

Since you are strapped for vacation time. As lo as you have trusted family members that can take care of your stuff leaving right after might be the better option depending on when the flight times are. We woke up at 3am to make our 6am flight (45 mins to airport) and we were miserably tired that whole day.  

Post # 19
4697 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We left our venue.. Went home and changed/ showered (took off my fake eyelashes mainly..) and went to the airport. Our flight was at about 6 am. It was perfect.. We slept for 12 hours and woke up in Dubai.

I’m with your Fiance on this.

Post # 20
9 posts
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’m with your Fiance on this one. Yes you will be tired but it will be the excited post holiday craze tired where you are so wired you wouldn’t sleep anyway. Get on the plane, get some sleep and have your first night in bed as husband and wife in Barcelona where you can take your time and really be together.

Post # 21
1210 posts
Bumble bee

I agree with PP and your Fiance. Overnight flights to Europe are better IMO because you arrive in the morning and you can sleep on the plane. It will be good if you are tired, especially if you are flying coach, because it will be easier to fall asleep 😉

Regarding family time, perhaps you can invite people to the rehearsal dinner or find some other time before the wedding to socialize with them? You really are talking just a few hours after 6pm, so it’s not like you are losing days with them. 

Post # 22
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Cellar 222

I would also suggest you go overnight. In a perfect world you would ideally be able to spend time with the family after your wedding but 7 days is already a really short amount of time for an international trip. Why waste a day at airports?

Post # 23
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We’re in the midst of planning our honeymoon and one word of advice I keep coming across is to have a day or 2 after the wedding before you leave on your honeymoon to relax and settle down.  Of course the honeymoon is a time to relax but traveling is exhausting no matter what and you probably don’t wantto spend the first few days in Barcelona sleeping in your hotel.  I would convince him to leave the next morning, that way you can spend time with your families and friends and eachother after the wedding, get a good sleep, and start the day off with an exciting travel!! Plus late night flights are the most common to delay!

Post # 24
1066 posts
Bumble bee

I definitely see his point with such limited time off. On the other hand I completely agree with you that it would be better to leave in the morning. You will have a lot of loose ends to tie up before you leave and it’s a LOT to get ready and pack for an international trip AND your wedding all in one day. Think how busy you’d be the day before/day of a trip like that if it wasn’t your honeymoon, then quadruple that. You’ll need time to pack all the last minute items, find a safe place for your dress, clean up all the decor/gifts from your wedding, make sure you have all the $$ and paperwork taken care of for both the trip and the wedding, and so many other little details, not to mention regain your sanity for half a second from planning the wedding.

In the grand scheme of things, 12-18 hours is not going to make a big difference in your trip but it might make a HUGE difference in your mood when starting off your honeymoon. We had a full day between then wedding and leaving for our honeymoon and it was so nice to leave and know that I felt prepared knowing everything would be ok until I got back so I was able to relax and enjoy the trip. If I had left right away I know I personally would have been a stressed out bitch worrying if everything made it home from the wedding or if there were any loose ends I forgot to tie up.

I also think that it’s not necessary to spend time with family and friends that night but if you’re able to swing it, that’s great but after the wedding is over it’s time to make sure you’re able to just enjoy your new hubby on your honeymoon and making that happen.

Post # 25
2853 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I kind of agree with your Fiance… an overnight flight would mean getting to sleep on the plane, so you aren’t wasting a whole vaca/honeymoon day flying. Do like the redeye tho, no need to run to catch a flight RIGHT after the wedding.

Post # 26
341 posts
Helper bee

applepie15:  If he had more time off, I would agree with you. Seeing as how he has such a limited window of time, I really think you should leave right away and sleep on the plane. I’d much rather sleep on a plane than waste an entire day flying and have significantly less time on the honeymoon. You’re already going to have to take 2 of the 7 days he has off for the wedding and flying, I would do my best not to make it 3.

Post # 27
11519 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

If he had more time off, I’d agree with you, but given the timing I’m with your Fiance.  An overnight flight makes way more sense (and might even be the only option).

I’d rather spend the night flying than waste a vacation day flying.

Post # 28
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I agree with your Fiance and think it’s sweet he wants to get your honeymoon underway ASAP! Something so romantic about being whisked away for your honeymoon immediately after your wedding. Snooze on the plane and soak in your extra day in a beautiful country!

Like others have said, if your concern is spending time with family, be sure to get that in beforehand! All the time after should be for you and your new hubby.

Post # 29
14977 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Is there a way to schedule time with family before the wedding?  With such limited time, I’d want to go right away and take a red eye also.  Where are you flying from, how long is the flight?   Have you checked when the flight times actually are?  I would have to side with him with limited info.  The thing with waiting till the next morning is that then u spend the day flying, you get tehre and it’s bed time, so you lost a full day by just waiting till the next morning to fly.

Post # 30
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

One of you will have to bend, or change your destination. If you really want the whole day with family, are you willing to head to a closer destination the next day? Or, can you start spending time with family the night before, so the wedding is just the culmination and the high?

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