(Closed) Please help – FI and I can't agree on wedding cake

posted 4 years ago in Food
  • poll: Which cake do you like most?
    Cake 1 : (49 votes)
    22 %
    Cake 2 : (38 votes)
    17 %
    Cake 3 : (18 votes)
    8 %
    Cake 4 : (122 votes)
    54 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Does your FI have a lot of strong opinions regarding wedding planning stuff?  If not , maybe you can let him choose the cake design but compromise on flavors? I say this bc my Husbabd only cared about DJ and photography so I let him make final choices on those two items , just felt it was only fair. 

    Post # 4
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    9918 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    They are all so girly.

    Post # 5
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    2029 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Why dont you have a grooms cake and a wedding cake. That is what we are doing. He gets to have any kind of cake he wants and it will be served at the rehearsal dinner. This way I get to have my girly wedding cake 🙂

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    3376 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I agree that if he hasn’t had a say in a lot of stuff, let him choose the cake design! I had DH put together a few inspiration pics for our baker and left the decision totally up to him since everything else was my choice. Best way to start off the marriage is with compromise at the wedding! 🙂

    Post # 7
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    9918 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I guess I could add a more constructive comment, sorry.  We are doing cupcakes in flavors we both like.  I think the cakes you have posted are fancy and girly, but they might not taste awesome.  Have you done a cake tasting?  Which tasted the best?  

    Post # 8
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    6207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I voted for #4, but honestly, they’re all pink and girly so past that, I don’t think anyone will remember what it looked like.

    Post # 9
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    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @MrsOrange:  I agree. 

    OP, if your FI doesn’t have strong opinions about anything else, then I’d let him have the cake.  It is his wedding too. 😉

    Having said that, I like #1 and #4.

    Post # 10
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    508 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    To be honest, I am not crazy about any of them but that’s because I like more color on cakes.  But they are all pretty similar to me so I would just let him choose if it means that much to him.

    Post # 12
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    5883 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Cake 4 is my favourite by far; I don’t like the proportions of the other three, or the designs.

    Post # 13
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    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

     

    @smileyme:  Cake 3 might be less offensive if it didn’t have those roses. Maybe a ribbon around the base of each layer or fresh flowers instead. Maybe if you make each layer smaller and taller, it will have a more modern look.

    For our wedding cake, I picked the design (well I gave my FI 3 choices and he picked within them), and he picked our flavor.

    Post # 14
    Hostess
    2557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    #4

    Post # 15
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    4525 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    My BF would shut down all of those as well. I think a good compromise, like others have suggested, would be a grooms cake so you both can have something that reflects your tastes 🙂

    Post # 16
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    4442 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    Are these pics that you and FI both picked?  Because they look so similar I don’t see what’s to fight about!

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