(Closed) Fiance at bachelor party

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@JenGirl:  I like this idea!

Post # 18
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Helper bee

@lunabella:  

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@sylvia.riggle:  I hear you girls and while I am not entirely disagreeing, I sort of fall in the camp that if you trust your guy, let him have a weekend with the guys.  Ragging on a guy when a girlfriend shows a window into her jealousy is fairly common In My Humble Opinion, and I think that if girls don’t think it happens, they are fooling themselves.  I also don’t think it automatically makes those guys “d-bags”

The guys teased my fiance’s friend for sure, but in all honesty, the girlfriend’s comment was equally inappropriate for a public forum, and did not lend itself to her willingness to compromise or trust in her boyfriend.

I truly did feel for her, but if I had those feelings, I would take them up with my fiance personally, not snark on someone’s status on fbook.

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think it’s so stupid that the bachelor party ‘gives’ men permission to see another womans body. Your getting married, that doesnt mean he needs to go out and see boobs. Theres never any other time somebody would feel comfortable saying “yes you can look at her naked”, so why now before you marry each other? I’d be pissed! 

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I guess I just don’t understand the issue some people have with bachelor parties. Before you even think about getting married to a person; shouldn’t you trust the person enough that if they see a naked person they wont get attached to it, either physically or emotionally? It’s just a naked girl, it’s not an orgy party.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Goat:  I’m with you.  I find it completely inappropriate and Fiance knows that.  But to each their own.

OP, I would be pretty annoyed and bothered to see that pic on Facebook.  It’s one thing to know it’s going on, another to have to see it.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Goat 100% agree with you…:)

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Eh I’m glad we didn’t have bachelor/bachelorette parties… Even more glad DH isn’t into the strip club scene. It would drive me crazy seeing that on Facebook. And I dont think your comment to it was anything bad at all! Hope you got some sleep and didn’t dream of strippers.

Post # 24
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Helper bee

To the OP yeah, I don’t think that comment was inappropriate!

 

I know others will disagree… but I’m not ok with my man going to strip clubs. It’s not a controlling thing. Unless you consider it controlling that we are committed to each other–and I think that includes not going to a club for the purpose of looking at naked girls in a sexual way. That’s one of the ways I define commitment.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@dashwoodgirl:  DH had the same thing happen at his work.  Work guys went out for a  going away party….just guys, no wives allowed.  They were out from 7 pm until 5 am on a work night.  Around 1:30 one of the guys posted on his FB, the wife of the guy going away posted a hour later, “so when are you bringing him home?”  Well for the next hour, her and another wife went back and forth on FB.  It was really comical.  People were calling/texting him the next day (since he called in sick) if his wife was gonna let him come out and play.  

It was sad though b/c the wife leaving had an unexpected death in her family 2 days later and had to leave immediately.  People had been sooo mean to her and then they didn’t know what to say….she pretty much left w/o saying goodbye to anyone.  

Anyways OP, keep thinking he’ll be home soon…and he’ll be ready for YOU!!!

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@texasbee:  I think this kind of behavior is old fashioned and outdated—it is perfectly normal for a wife to comment when ppl are posting on fb whilst on their night out….especially a night that ended at 5am on a work night…funny if I were out w the girls and my fiance called no one would think anything of it, in fact if I was out until 5am and he didnt call or text at all they might ask if something was wrong

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