Fiance called off wedding and broke up

posted 3 weeks ago in Emotional
Post # 211
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Worker bee

If your family is happy to have you staying over, why prolong your misery and anxiety wondering whether your ex will pay or disappear? Just pack up and leave. You’ll lose some money but gain mental peace. He can pay to end the lease once you move out.

Post # 212
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Worker bee

darksideofthemoon :  If he is willing to pay the cost to break the lease in December and you can move in with family, I would do that. Moving gives you a chance to go through belongings, discard what no longer serves you, start fresh. It can be cathartic. Painful, but cathartic.

 

I would encourage you to get him to go ahead and pay the final fee directly to the landlord to release both of you from your lease, once that is taken care of (paid! not just promised, but actually paid) then you can go no contact and you can take November to prepare to move and be with your family and focus on yourself and healing and moving forward.

Post # 214
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Helper bee

How are you feeling now? Hope you are well and have recovered from sickness.

Post # 216
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Helper bee

Did he ask you to return the ring or mention you can keep it?

Post # 220
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Helper bee

kayaa :  Sorry I meant sell, not see lol

Post # 221
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Helper bee

darksideofthemoon :  Might be worthwhile asking him if he expects you to keep it. Definitely don’t sell it unless he confirms in writing that he does not want it back.

Good to hear you are doing better.

Post # 222
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Why even bring it up? If he hasnt’ said anything she certainly shouldn’t ask. He broke it off, he can ask for it if he thinks of it. She shouldn’t be offering him jack shit unlesss he specifically asks about it. 

Post # 223
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Helper bee

mrsssb :  I have heard a few times of men who asked for the ring back much later on, on one occasion after the ex had sold it off assuming she could keep it. He’s already showing her how little he cares about her, and he might make her life difficult at a later stage trying to get the ring or its cost back from her. 

Post # 225
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Bumble Beekeeper

darksideofthemoon :  

Dear OP, do you really need to see him face to face? I bet you can do it via email etc. You are opening yourself to humiliation by your actions here. Just dot point your issues in writing, don’t keep giving him opportunities to show how little he cares. 

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