(Closed) Fiance called off wedding and broke up

posted 5 months ago in Emotional
Post # 766
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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KittyYogi :  

A little reading comprehension would have told you that *turning into* is not the same statement as *you are*.

You’re *turning into* an Olympic athlete is quite a large step from *you are an Olympic athlete*.

 

Post # 767
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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sassy411 :  seriously?  So if I say to someone “You’re turning into a real bitch”, they’re shouldn’t take offense because it’s not actually an insult?  Come on, talk about splitting hairs.

Post # 768
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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KittyYogi :  

No, Bee.  Words matter.  Some people are sloppy with language.  Some of us have learned to use language properly and with precision.

Nowhere did I dictate how anyone should *feel* about anything.  That’s controller language.

Post # 769
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Bumble bee

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sassy411 :  If everyone who read your comment took it the same way, that says something bee. I don’t think Kitty is the one with the language precision problem.

ETA: I’m also curious about your word choice re: “crazy stalker.” Since you claim to be so precise with your language, I can only assume using the word “crazy” in this derogatory fashion was deliberate. For someone who seems so committed to raising awareness about mental health issues, this word choice seems off brand, to say the least.

Post # 770
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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emilyofnewmoon :  I’ve been following this thread from the beginning and there were quite a few bees trying to put words into ops mouth and respomding to things that were never said.  Op has been very calm and rational through this whole thing.  Her reaction to what she’s been through is pretty normal but that hasn’t stopped people from accusing her of turning into a crazy stalker or suggesting that she’s addicted to contacting her ex or mentally unhinged in some way.  I also find the therapy suggestions ridiculous.  Therapy can be helpful for many people but it also can be unhelpful for a lot of people yet it gets thrown out here as a blanket solution.  Who knows if therapy will be helpful for the op or if just spending time with friends and family will help?  Or maybe just the passing of time will help.  The dust hasn’t even settled yet.  Op will decide what’s best.  No need to run to a therapist immediately 

Op, take it easy and give yourself time to heal.  You’re not turning into a crazy stalker because you want to reach out to your ex.  You were a part of each other’s lives for so long and it’s only natural to want to reach out to him, no matter how horribly he’s treated you. Be kind to yourself.   

Post # 771
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Busy Beekeeper

I’m feeling bad for the OP, who hasn’t been back for two days while Bees argue with one another. 

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darksideofthemoon :  I hope you are finding some peace and small joys in each day that will increase over time. Time really is a great healer. 

Post # 772
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I believe this thread has run its course 

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