(Closed) Fiance called off wedding and broke up

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 76
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Well too bad he took the money out because he is still legally responsible for his half of the rent until your lease is up. I would google and do some research and see what it says about his legal obligations to pay out the rent until your lease is up. Then I’d tell him he will continue to pay his share until the lease is up. If he doesn’t you can tell the landlord and his credit will take a big hit. 

Post # 77
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

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darksideofthemoon :  Shit. 

Does that mean he took the money needed to pay the lease payment? So are you out even more now?? What the HELL?! 

I hope you’ve got a good support system to lean on and that you use it. You are being treated terribly by this person and you need good, loving people in your corner reminding you that you deserve so much better. Please let your friends and family be there for you in whatever ways you need. 

I still think you should try to get out of the apartment as well, unless being there really doesn’t bother you at all but I have a hard time seeing how it could not. 

Post # 81
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

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darksideofthemoon :  his attitude is him trying to mentally justify his actions, no one is a villain in their own mind so he is making you into the bad guy. He is no longer on ur side and will not defend you. Get a lawyer 

Post # 82
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Wannabee

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darksideofthemoon :  First of all, I am so sorry that this happened to you. Secondly, my guess is that he has started seeing someone else while you two were engaged. I know it stings now, but be thankful that it happened now and not when you two are married. I wish you all the happiness in the world. You deserve it

Post # 83
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Worker bee

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darksideofthemoon :  “He did ask if I would like to take over the lease. He took his funds out because I took out mine.”

Bee, please wise up. You shouldn’t have to shoulder the financial burden because his sorry ass thinks only about himself. As long as his name is still on the lease, he’s responsible. You should talk to your landlord ASAP about splitting payments and your POS ex can have his credit tank if he doesn’t want to pay.

Given his shit behavior, I bet he was planning on moving money out of the joint account regardless of whether you moved the money first or not. At least you were able to get your “fair share” although I believe your fair share should have been ALL the cost of the cancellation and the lease as well. If you waited any longer to move that money, I bet there wouldn’t be anything left to take except the lease payment. He would have came up with some bullshit excuse that he already lost out a lot of money, which is his OWN DAMN FAULT anyways for stringing you along knowing full well that he had no intention of marrying you.

Post # 84
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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darksideofthemoon :   I don’t know why he is being this awful to me because I have done nothing to hurt him but you would think from his behavior that I wronged him in some way. 

 

well, he can either live with the guilt or be righteously indignant over some imagined way you’ve wronged him, and he’s clearly going with narrative that helps him sleep at night. It is not fair to you, but that’s what selfish, cowardly people do. I am so sorry.

Post # 85
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Definitely don’t take over the lease without getting proper advice from a lawyer. He wants you to take over the lease in your name so he can get out of the responsibility for paying his half. Perhaps if he’d treated you with any kind of dignity and respect over the last several days, it would be a reasonable request for him to make and you to grant. But he has been nothing but selfish so let him reap what he’s sown. 

Post # 86
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Helper bee

I agree that you should get a lawyer. Don’t deal with this on your own without proper advice, especially not when you are emotionally vulnerable.

Post # 87
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Bee Keeper

You want answers? You got your answer. He’s with somebody and doesn’t want you to know who it is. There’s your answer. There’s no “might be right” We are. It’s obvious. And he has no guilt now – he’s managed to rationalize it all. Turd.

If this doesn’t shut the “jump on the affair bandwagon” people the hell up, I don’t know what will. Some things are canon for a cheater. OP please believe us when we tell you to act with only your interests in mind. Fuck him. 

And when you call your guests to cancel be sure to tell them it’s because he’s with someone else. I am serious here. He should feel the repercussions.  Because I guarantee you, he’s making it your fault. 

I’m sorry, but I go nuclear on this stuff and that’s how you have to be. Care for yourself only.

Post # 88
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Bumble Beekeeper

Oh, Bee. He can either acknowledge that he’s a douchebag or find some reason to blame you. He’s chosen the latter. That tells you all about his character. 

He’s with someone else, maybe even the ex. You’ll find out eventually, don’t torture yourself over having all of the answers now. You know what you need to know–he cheated (he’s not cheating now, your relationship is over) and he’s not worthy of you. 

Just because he no longer wants the apartment doesn’t mean you have to stay there. And he IS legally obligated to continue paying his share of the rent, no matter what he thinks or says. Speak with your landlord right away and make certain he doesn’t move to have himself removed from lease without your consent. And take a few days to think about what is best for you. 

Have a friend or family member notify your guests in such a way that lets people know he abruptly changed his mind and he’s a cheating asshole–there are plenty of ways to vaguely indicate the truth. Don’t let him spin this to make himself look better. Hugs. 

Post # 89
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Bee Keeper

And you’re sounding like a weenie OP. Youve spent the week bending over for someone who doesnt give two shots about you. And of course you’re getting screwed in the process. Of course he’s making it sound like it was your fault. THAT IS WHAT CHEATERS DO. They rationalize. And this is why we say act in your own interest. I agree that a legal consult is your next step.

Post # 90
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I’ve imploded your life but “mind your own business”!! 

What a piece of shit he is.  He most definitely had/has a side person. He is obligated to finish the lease.  

 

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