Bee, I wish I could say his behavior surprises me, but it doesn’t.
He doesn’t love you.
He doesn’t even like you much.
Now that he has gathered the courage to pull the plug he wants it all over NOW.
I guarantee he wants to move in with someone else and I’m sure it’s his ex.
But even if not, he sees you as dirt on his shoe to kick off, so even though you are shocked and confused you have to push those feelings aside and start DOING. You will get no kindness or reconciliation from this guy.
1. If you want the apt, then stay there. I wouldn’t simply because he wants to move out and fuck him. I’d contact the landlord, tell him what’s going on, if it helps tell them you are afraid because he’s angry and you need to move out asap. Anything it takes to get you out of there.
2. Ask your best friend and sister to start contacting people about the wedding being cancelled, if people ask what happened they can say it seems like he may be with someone else. MAY. If they don’t ask they should give no explanation.
3. Stay with someone else and don’t contact him. If you want, you can send one message or give one call to his family to thank them for their kindness towards you. They weren’t that kind but it will make them feel guilty which might help in his treatment of you.
4. The reason you aren’t getting married is because he’s an asshole. That’s all. Assume the worst. Assume he is with someone else, assume he’s disgusted by you, assume whatever you have to so that you get good and angry and stop seeing him for the prince he isnt. The worse he gets the easier it will be to get over him.
My exfiance ended our relationship with basically no reason. He was cheating on me earlier and we were in counseling for 6 months during which he was adamant he loved me and wanted to marry me. After he dumped me I found out he was with the same girl. That didn’t go well for him. Then after dating some other women he found his now wife. I just got married to a man I had known for years who always loved me but I was so focused on my ex I didn’t see how great he was. I’m happier than I have ever been now. And my ex? Well we reconnected years later and all he could basically say was he was an idiot, he did love me then, I had done nothing wrong, and he apologized for hurting me. As if it made it better. You may get the same, maybe not, but right now nothing is your fault and he will have to carry the shame of what he did for the rest of his life, and I promise you, that’s not a good foundation for a successful new (or a continuation of an old) relationship.