(Closed) Fiance caught watching homosexual porn, but says it means nothing.

posted 3 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 106
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Blushing bee

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carolinabelle :  It’s relevant in the fact that people have preferences. People have things they can deal with and cannot deal qothm if you cant understand that then your part of the problem. We do not need to be chastising this woman or anyone else for their sexual preference. 

Post # 107
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Busy bee

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lemonsandlife71 :  Take your assumptions elsewhere….I’ve dated men who watched gay porn and it didn’t phase me and still doesn’t. Guess I’m more open minded than many on here and not homophobic like others because if you think watching gay porn is wrong then you are, by definition, homophobic.

Post # 109
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Sugar bee
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lifeisbeeutiful :  You get real. Preferences can be rooted in bigotry. The preference to not date a bi man is one of those. No one can force you to date someone you don’t want to. But you’re still being biphobic if you wouldn’t date a man you otherwise really liked just because he is attracted to men in addition to women. 

Post # 110
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Helper bee

Porn is porn, I wouldn’t care what sort of porn it is since to me porn is simple entertainment. You could try exploring the subject with him.. research says most people aren’t 100% straight or gay a lot are somewhere on the spectrum. 

Post # 111
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Sugar bee
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lemonsandlife71 :  um, no. If you are biphobic then YOU are part of the problem. 

Post # 113
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Busy bee

She came here for advice, you all would be shocked had your SO done this and you had no clue.

That is what my response is to. Assumption and generalization.

Post # 114
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Busy Beekeeper

carolinabelle :  I find your logic really bizarre. Who we’re attracted to or would feel comfortable being in a relationship with is extremely personal, and does not need to be justified. I know gay people who don’t want to date a bisexual person, and bixesual people who are more comfortable with people who have a certain sexual identification over others, and none of that is discrimination either. 

When it comes to dating, you are not obligated to give anyone a shot. You can choose not to date someone for any reason under the sun, including sexual orientation. It’s not discrimination.

Post # 115
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021

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tiffanybruiser :  There is no logical reason to not date a bisexual person that isn’t rooted in homophobia or biphobia though. If there is please tell me. Yeah people can have their preferences, but don’t pretend it’s not because of prejudice that they have these preferences in the first place. 

Post # 116
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Helper bee

Why was OP snooping through his internet history to begin with? My question on that was never answered.

Why is OP so intent on accusing her SO of lying?

Post # 117
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Busy bee

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needmorewine :  I agree. No one accidentally looks at a browsing history. Why is there any reason for her to snoop? Why is there lack of trust? Makes you think.

Post # 118
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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tiffanybruiser :  Not dating someone because they’re bisexual IS discrimination and IS biphobic. You can make all the excuses you want because of “preference” or whatever, but the reasons are still rooted in prejudice. I really wanna know a reason that someone would be uncomfortable dating a bisexual person that isn’t based on sterotypes and prejudice views of the community.

Biphobia is still a very real thing in both the gay and straight communities. I’m a bisexual woman married to a lesbian woman and I still get biphobic comments ALL the time about how I “chose women” or how I’m “just gay now”.

Post # 119
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Busy bee
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Not wanting to date someone for any reason is not discrimination. Nobody owes you sex or a relationship.  Anyone can deny that of you for any reason they please.  You guys have are really off the rails here.  If a heterosexual person chooses to only date other heterosexuals, there’s nothing wrong with that.  If a homosexual person chooses to date only homosexuals, there’s nothing wrong with that either. 

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Post # 120
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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spilledmilk :  I don’t understand why it’s discriminatory and biophobic to not want to date a bisexual man if you’re a straight woman. Why is it wrong for a straight woman to prefer a straight man? I don’t see how this preference is different than any other preference. I’m married, but if I were single and dating I would prefer not to date a man that was 30 years my senior because it’s just not my thing. Can a preference be just a preference? This is an authentic question. I’m really asking and I’m open to learning something.

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