Fiancé Changes Groomsmen’s Suit Color. Doesn’t match theme.

posted 2 years ago in Themes
Post # 2
6828 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Gray won’t clash with what you have, I think it will be a nice compliment. Plus, its literally just the guys suits, you can still have everything else the same, so the black isn’t going to be jarring because some dudes are wearing a different suit. 

Post # 3
9961 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

You’re overthinking this. Grey will still look great with your theme, bee. 

Post # 4
1744 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think gray will clash, but if he wants to stand out, could he wear a black tux and the groomsmen wear black suits?

Post # 5
6771 posts
Busy Beekeeper

You are completely overthinking this, Bee. 1) Gray will be fine. 2) There are many shades of gray including charcoal. 3) It’s his wedding too.

Please reconsider the black fondant cake, however, Or at least try one first so you can see how it stains your lips/teeth/tongue. 

Post # 6
9961 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

beethree :  I second her on the cake thing. 

Post # 7
2800 posts
Sugar bee

I think a dark charcoal-y grey would look great. There are lots of blues that would work well with it too. 

Being TOO matchy matchy can actually get a little overdone/tacky. You want to look at it as a theme rather than a strict set of just a few colours. Things don’t have to be identical to look nicely together and I find it looks a bit more sophisticated when it’s more of a general style than something like a sports team. 

Post # 8
3302 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think grey will look nice. They can still wear black ties if you like. You need to start looking at Rose gold, black & grey color palette. 

Post # 9
6231 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

The shades of a color do make a difference and I’m going to disagree with the others and say that your Fiance just up and changing the colors of a significant item 4 months before the wedding isn’t okay. I know the wedding is for the two of you and he should have a say but when the colors of certain things have been selected based on a decision made months ago (and which he was already a part of), your Fiance needs to understand that he can’t just up and make major changes without a discussion because there can be a ripple effect of other things that need to be reconsidered or adjusted. Also, if you have been doing the bulk of the work on this and he’s just jumping in and making changes on a whim, that’s not very considerate of the thought and effort you’ve put into it up to this point. 

When we were planning, my husband had deadlines by which he needed to give me his input on a certain item. Once the deadline passed and I’d moved on to work on the next thing, if he got an idea, he just needed to save that shit for his next wedding. 😛 We had to start doing that because, early on, he decided to focus and take action on something after a significant deadline had passed and we lost a deposit making changes because he’d put off doing his part in a timely way.

Also- if your colors are black and rose gold and cream, the guys are going to look dumb as hell standing up there wearing a blue suit and grey suits. However, you can absolutely adjust the colors of your wedding and inspo- you don’t have to be locked in to the original vision. I would say, though, that since your Fiance is the guy with the bright ideas, he’d better be sitting there with you to help work it out.

One last thing- Why not have your Fiance in a black suit and his groomsmen in gray? That way he stands out from them and he still matches with the theme.

Also- he needs to grow up and stop pouting. Wedding planning can be a major process and if he’s this pissy just because you pushed back on his poorly thought through idea, then he should have some understanding of how you might feel to have him making changes after the whole wedding theme has been based on an idea he helped contribute to months ago.

Post # 10
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

My colors are grey, rose gold, and burgundy–it’ll look nice. Tell him to nix the blue suit and it’ll work out.

Post # 11
561 posts
Busy bee

This is not a hill to die on, let him have his grey and realize that it will still be beautiful!

Post # 12
2471 posts
Buzzing bee

1.- No one will care.

2.- Why does everything have to “coordinate”?

3.-  No one will care.

Post # 13
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

bluesky355 :   Ha! My Fiance changed colors on me too!  At first I freakedo ut, because I thoguht that light grey would wash everythingo ut.  Then I saw he wanted charcoal and medium grey.  I ended up tweaking his picks a bit, and nto I think it looks even better than my original vision!

I think a charcoal grey will look great with your theme, even better than black TBH.  I think it will soften the overall contrast.

Post # 14
276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

Your fiance feeling valued and like he’s a part of your team is waaaaaaaaaay more important than coordinating colors. And gray will look just fine. It’s about the marriage, not the wedding. 

Post # 15
2928 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

bluesky355 :  My personal feeling is that themes are for kids birthday parties and prom.  I don’t know, you’re coming across as a bit inflexible on this color thing.  I couldn’t tell you the theme or colors of any wedding I’ve been to the last 3 years.

Let this go.  Let the guys wear grey suits.  It will be fine.

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