Post # 31
I’m going to have to deviate from most here and say I do think the original black suits would be better. I’m not sure how you think she’s being “inflexible” when she included him early on, and picked the rest of the theme according to what he liked. The reason it’s an issue now is because things are planned and the wedding isn’t too far off. I would just have a kind and understanding converstation with him, and discuss your concerns. See how he responds. He may not be aware that it won’t look quite right. It doesn’t really sound like you’ve discussed with him that it bothers you, so I would just start with letting him know your concerns.
Post # 32
Just gonna say one more for reconsider the black cake. The amount of pigment you need to add to white fondant to make it black is significant.
It may not be so bad if they airbrush the color on though, so the fondant is actually white. Just.. worth looking in to to make sure it doesn’t look like pens exploded in your mouths.
As for the suits.. it’ll look fine. Itd bother me he changed things last minute too tbh. but still, it’ll look fine.
Post # 33
Thanks everyone! All of your input was helpful! Wedding planning gets stressful so sometimes it’s great to hear from people who don’t personally know you!
I do want to clarify one thing that some seem to be missing. When I said my fiancé picked out everything and I chose around it, that was a completely literal statement. He chose the black cake, our venue, and a lot of other things. Again, I like a lot of different styles so I’ve been picking out everything else he doesn’t care to choose. I am also the one coordinating this entire wedding planning process, so my frustration wasn’t from him picking something I don’t like, my frustration was from him changing the groomsmens suits when we were deep in the wedding planning. Like another person mentioned in the thread, once you are so deep in the planning, making changes creates a ripple effect. We also have 9 groomsmen and 9 bridesmaids – again, a number he chose and I promised to match it. Having such a large wedding party was also why I was concerned about the changes. My bridesmaids dresses are all different. I let them choose their own dress as long as the color is blush or champange. So I don’t think it’s fair for me to be describe as one who is being a little controlling. I was worried that making a change like that after we were so far along would make everything look off. I do apologize for not being more clear.
As an update, we are keeping the gray suits and they will be charcoal. When I told him that I was going to soften our theme up a bit he said, “But I really like the black and rose gold.” I assured him that will still be there, just not as much. So we found a happy middle. 🙂 Thanks all! Everyone’s input was helpful in some way and allowed me to see things from different viewpoints.
Post # 34
I think the charcoal will be a more sophisticated look and everyone will be happy. Well done.