Post # 1
I’ve always thought I wanted a simple half carat solitare in a plain band. Showed my fiance, and that was that. He bought the ring I showed him and proposed. I’m very happy with the proposal and marrying him but as time goes on I’m starting to like my ring less and less.
When I first saw it in the box I was a teeny bit disappointed. I’m not sure why, it almost looked better in the jewelery store? But whatever, carried on and still loved that I was finally going to marry my best friend.
When we showed it to friends he made a comment saying he wished it was a little bigger but that I wanted that exact one. Which I did, or thought I did.
I’ve gotten “small” comments here and there. Sometimes people will ask to see it and they just stare in silence, it’s really weird and awkward. I haven’t gotten one positive comment on it. Every time I go somewhere bridal other brides definitely have more going on with their rings. Trying not to compare because if Fiance loved it and I loved it I wouldn’t care.
I asked him again if he likes my ring and he just says well I bought it for you. He’s not being mean about it, I just know that he’s tiptoeing around and doesn’t want to say, “it’s small and super plain and boring”. Well before all this happened I didn’t really think much of engagement rings I just thought I wanted a half carat plain ring. Didn’t even realize 1 carat plus was the norm.
The size of it did look underwhelming when I first saw it and I would of liked a bigger stone but now I’m more unhappy that the man that proposed with it doesn’t really care for it at all. I’m a sentimental person and should have just had him pick something out. I really wish it came just from him and something he picked because he thought of me when he saw it. I wish I could go back in time and never showed him this ring. Even if we return it it’s going to not be the ring he proposed with and that’s in all our proposal photos and memories.
This really sucks and I don’t know what to do. I start disliking it more every time I look at my finger.
Post # 2
If you want more bling you could add a ring enhancer as your wedding band. Then you keep the ring he proposed with but also get something a little flashier.
Post # 3
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way about your ring. I agree with hikingbride. You should look into wraps for your solitaire and diamond wedding bands to add a little more to your ring. I change up my rings all of the time. Good luck!!
Post # 4
blessedbee : I have looked up both options and were planing on going with a diamond wedding band.
problem is still that my fiancé just didn’t really like the ring. He would of never picked it if I didn’t say something. I just have major regret of taking control over this and not even picking something I really liked.
Post # 5
I’m in the process of finding two side stones for my setting, perhaps you could add some sides and make it a 3 stone make it something blingier? That way you get to keep it and get something you like.
I’m a sentimental person so while I would update my setting I wouldn’t change my diamond out.
Post # 6
ladyvk : unfortunately I’m not big on three stone rings. And if we were to change this specific ring it would void the designers warranty.
really wish I had a time machine
Post # 7
Could you keep the setting and have your fiance pick out a new stone? That way the setting is the original but he gets to give you the size/shape stone he would have picked?
Editing to add: another option would be to get an entirely new ring and keep the one you have as a right hand ring, or necklace, or a keepsake to pass on to future children. I totally understand the sentimental value of it and wanting to keep it exactly as is, but that doesn’t mean you need to look at it every day as your engagement ring if you don’t want to.
Post # 8
bluetrue : Well…maybe if you go try on some wraps you both might begin to like it better? Seems like just getting a whole new ring isn’t an option so why not try on some enhancers in person and see the difference it could possibly make..I don’t know. Or if getting a new ring or resetting the diamond into a new blinged setting is an option you should do it,maybe you both will feel better about it.
Post # 9
Could you maybe do one of the two:
1) get a halo added?
2) Get a ring you both love together and he can do a smal reproposal so it can be official
Post # 13
Pictures above with and without wrap. Sapphire and ruby wraps
Post # 14
If you’re in a position to exchange it, then that’s my vote. It sounds like that’s what would make you happy.
Post # 15
Do you genuinely not like the ring, or do you not like ring because of comments from other people? If it’s the Former, then change the ring.
A 1+ carat diamond isn’t really a standard or a norm you need to adhere by. The demographic of Weddingbee isn’t exactly reflective of the general population. You liked the ring when you first saw it, and your fiancé bought it for you. The carat of the Stone is by no means an indicator of your fiancé’s love and commitment. Bigger stone doesn’t mean he’s more committed.