(Closed) Fiance does not want to do the garter toss.. :(

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

There is nothing wrong with doing a bouquet toss and no garter toss. I’ve seen it done a few times. We are doing neither because it makes me uncomfortable. Just compromise. Give him this but next thing you both disagree on you get your choice.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I don’t think it’s weird if you don’t do it. We won’t be as it makes me uncomfortable plus the last few weddings I’ve been to haven’t done it!

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I’m in a wedding band and thats not unusual at all. I would say 75% of the time our clients do not do a garter toss. It’s not weird at all to only do the flower toss.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

why does he not want to do it.
And no it would not be weird, but if a bridesmaid caught your bouquet, who would put the garter on HER leg?

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Buttercup014:  We are planning on doing a bouquet toss, but not a garter toss neither of us are comfortable with him going up my skirt in front of our families. We don’t think it would be weird, but we are also not very traditional. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Lots of people skip the garter toss (and bouquet toss) these days. It would be fine for you to just toss your bouquet. It’s your wedding. You guys get to pick what traditions make the cut and which ones don’t.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I actually find it bizarre.  You are surrounded by family and friends and your Darling Husband is digging around your wedding dress to find a garter…uhm… for me that’s always been too private and even more awkward is the thought of doing that in front of parents, friends, and acquaintances. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

buzzinbee:  If there was no garter toss, there would be no putting the garter on the catchers leg. They just catch it and then the old wives tale is that they will be the next to be married

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We aren’t doing the garter or bouquet toss. I’ve only got 2 single girlfriends and he’s only got 2 single guy friends. I don’t want anyone feeling uncomfortable being called out as the only singles. haha

Post # 11
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Busy bee

We aren’t doing a bouquet toss or a garter toss. I don’t have enough single women to justify it, and I hate singling them out like that. Also when is anyone happy to throw $100+ behind their back? No one that’s who. Also I think the garter toss is outdated, if you talk to wedding planners they would say that the majority doesn’t do the toss. My Fiance is very attracted to me, and he think if we did the garter toss he would end up with some “issues” below the belt. So we’re stearing clear of that. No one will think you’re weird for doing this. Most people are there for the food and good times.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We’re not doing either at our Destination Wedding because almost everyone will be there with a SO but we are doing them at our AHR…

The garter thing kind of freaks me out though.. oh well.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I don’t think it would be weird at all. My sister did a flower toss, but no garter toss because she lost her garter.. she’s very disorganized!

I’m also not doing a garter toss. Both my fiance and myself think it is awkward, we are both kind of shy. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

My fiance and I have discussed this and we decided we are not doing the garter toss, but I am still going to do the bouquet toss. We both feel very uncomfortable with the garter toss and we think it’s an inappropriate thing to do infront of our family and friends (we’re very private with that kind of stuff).

But if it makes your fiance uncomfortable than I would definitely respect that and not pressure him into doing it. There is no reason why you can’t still do the bouquet toss. It’s your wedding so you can customize it however you like 🙂

Post # 15
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Honey bee

You couldn’t pay me a million bucks to do the garter toss. People will be fine without seeing it, promise.

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