(Closed) Fiance does not want to do the garter toss.. :(

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 61
2704 posts
Sugar bee

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alishac:  I’d only wear one if I sent Fiance a naughty pic of me in it the morning of the wedding haha

Post # 62
13667 posts
Honey Beekeeper

The large majority in my  circles do not do this  “tradition” and consider it a crass and sexist throwback. 

Post # 63
1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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Buttercup014:  we did not do the bouquet toss or garter toss. We don’t have that many single friends left and didn’t want to single them out and make the stand there fighting over a bouquet of flowers or a garter – I dreaded the bouquet toss when I was single so I didn’t want to do that to my friends. 

We we did the shoe game instead 🙂

Post # 64
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m on the fence about whether I even want to do a garter toss – I’m plus-sized and self-conscious about showing my legs.  I’m kinda leaving it up to FH.  I don’t think it’s weird to do the bouquet toss but not the garter – one of the most recent weddings I’ve been to skipped out on the garter toss and honestly I didn’t even notice till just now when I was trying to remember if they did it!  The others I only remember because it was close friends of mine doing it and they made a big production out of it.

Post # 65
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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Buttercup014:  No one asked me either, or about the bouquet toss. I don’t think people will miss it and the garter tossing is a little crass

Post # 66
472 posts
Helper bee

Garter tosses make me shudder. As a guest, I was always happy when it was skipped. As a bride, I definitely skipped it myself.

Post # 67
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

We didn’t do a garter toss or a bouquet toss. Neither of us wanted him up my skirt in front of our families, and I loved my bouquet too much. Never heard a thing about it from any of our guests.

I’ve always felt super awkward watching the garter “tradition” at other weddings.

Post # 68
2633 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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Buttercup014:  I’ve been to several weddings where the bride threw the bouquet and they didn’t do a garter toss.

Post # 69
1113 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think I’ve been to a wedding in the past 10 years WITH a garter toss.  I also could not be convinced to do it.  I think it’s really silly.  

Post # 70
1308 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

The garter toss has always struck me as both lecherous and antiquated. No one will miss the vulgarity of two strangers grappling with each others undergarments in front of a crowd.

Post # 71
962 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

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Buttercup014:  We did the bouquet toss because I love it, but not garter toss because I find them….vulgar. DH agreed.  No one cared.

Post # 72
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We didn’t do the bouquet or garter toss. I didn’t do flowers so my bouquet was paper flowers and I wanted to keep it. No way I was throwing it away! 

And garter tosses are so … bleh. I can’t stand them. As a guest or participant. They make me feel so uncomfortable. Especially depending on your audience – if there’s kids or even teenagers it’s just … icky. 

Skip it. No one even asked about ours. 

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