(Closed) Fiance doesn't like the style of my wedding dress! :-(

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

I also went to original post.  You look absolutely beautiful in your dress.  Your natural beauty will shine through and he will be mesmerized by your beautiful you look. 

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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MrsMeowton:  the same thing happened to me. I showed a picture to my Fiance of my dress (between a bunch of others of course) on the model and he was like “meh! I don’t like this one”. A few months later i was looking through Pinterest next to him and the same picture of my dress on the model showed up and he said “I like that dress, that’d be very you”. guys have no idea about dresses.

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ka0510:  First of all, that dress looks AMAZING on you!!! But I wouldn’t do a hoop skirt…..it makes the dress look like a quinceañera dress. Have you tried a crinoline petticoat? It’ll give the same poof but without the hoop showing (because you can really see where your hoop is…). The poof will be a whole lot softer but still big ballgown. And a lot more comfortable because hoop skirts are a pain in the ass to sit, to get in the limo, to do anything really. My dress is a ballgown too and tried it with both. 

Post # 18
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Your dress looks nothing like a gypsy wedding dress (I love that show, guilty pleasure). 

Your dress is elegant princess poof, a bit of grace Kelly, not crazy bling, bright colors, and a five story tiara. 

it is not as wide as a gypsy dress. It is not as long as a gypsy dress. It basically has nothing in common with a gypsy dress other than ball gown style.

this isn’t the in vogue style right now, and most men will say they don’t like proof. But they also say they don’t get babies. They say a lot of things they don’t mean. sometimes they are just trying to show they care and are paying attention by weighing in in things about which they really do not care. 

Rock that dress. It looks great on you and he’s going to think you’re gorgeous. 

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think the dress is beautiful and looks great on you. does the dress get bustled? Does that change anything?

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My husband is famous for looking at clothes online or in the store with me and going, “Eh it’s not my taste, but if you love it…” Then when I put it on he always goes, “Omg that’s so cute! I didn’t like it on the hanger, but now that I see it on you I actually really like it.”

Your dress is lovely, you’re going to rock that poof!

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Posts that are saying to reduce the hoop or find another dress SIX WEEKS before your wedding dont make sense. 1. Most men know NOTHING about wedding gowns 2. you will be the one wearing it. 3. if he sees you walking down the aisle and on your wedding day, he would not even know that was the same dress he verbally tore down. 

I asked my Fiance for what types of dresses he would like me to try, and he said fitted. I showed him pics of several fitted and ball gowns on me and he liked them all. Seriously….he knows nothing. And what he said was not nice. 

Let him know he hurt your feelings. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee

I think your dress is stunning, but considering what you learned….I think you should try to wear it without the hoop. Honestly I think it would look amazing if you could maybe get crinoline put in instead of the hoop and get it to be a more subtle ballgown. <br /><br />I had to recently make some concessions….I was almost sold on a beautiful paloma balanca ballgown…but my Fiance saw it on another bee and made a comment that made me realize he didnt like the dress 🙁 He saw a picture of a maggie sottero Emma and he really liked it. Its more simple and elegent…no poof what so ever. I havent bought my dress but now I am leaning towards a more aline or sheath look.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

It’s possible that your Fiance was worried your dress would be tacky, but I looked at it and it’s very classic and elegant. Unfortunately, it seems like you were nervous and didn’t answer his insensitive question honestly, so you may need to have another convo with him.

The good news is your dress is gorgeous!

I love poofy ballgowns, personally. It looks like they’re not as trendy right now (just going from other responses and all the mermaids etc I see on the boards, and finding fewer ballgowns when I went dress shopping.)

I don’t think it matters what the trend is, because a ballgown wedding dress is classic. You’re getting married in the silhouette that Jackie Kennedy and Grace Kelly wore! And more importantly, it’s a dress you love and it looks gorgeous on you.

I think you should tell your Fiance that you are planning to wear a ballgown and it is indeed a dramatic silhouette, but that it looks nothing like the dresses on that show. Tell him it looks classic, but you are worried now that he won’t like it from his comment and see what he says. If he says he’ll hate it, that’s not very sensitive of him but it’s his honest opinion and you can decide what to do about it. If he says he’ll love it as long as you love it and it’s not a totally over the top glam/tacky dress, you’re in the clear!

 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

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ka0510:  There was a reason why you chose the dress in the first place. Remember that and stop worrying about that ridiculous off-handed compliment. All he will see on your wedding day as you walk down the aisle is you. He will see you with your hair done up and you looking your best. This is the one day that you get to wear a big poofy dress – have fun and enjoy it!

Post # 26
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Blushing bee

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ka0510:  Honestly? My Fiance hates most modern wedding dresses! He can’t stand all the sparkle and bling. My first dress was like this, and if it had turned up at the bridal store in my size and not faulty it would still be my dress today because I loved it. A dress looks different on the woman who wears it. He will see you in your dress and think that you look beautiful because he loves you and is marrying you. I doubt he would even dislike your dress when he sees you in it!

Post # 27
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Helper bee

I think the dress is stunning but I do agree that you should look at a smaller hoop or no hoop at all, the dress is huge, even for a ballgown, and you have a tiny frame which just makes it look even bigger! I chose my gown knowing what style my Fiance liked(tight sexy mermaid!)but if he hadn’t liked mermaid dresses I would still have gotten one because that’s always been my dream wedding dress shape, so stick with your ballgown if YOU love it, & as cliche as it sounds I guarantee your Fiance will think you look beautiful.

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Exactly what prahajess said: If you feel beautiful, you’re going to look beautiful.

Both of my wedding dresses are navy.  I purchased them almost a year ago and just found out my fiance can’t really tell the difference between navy and black.  Had a brief moment of “oh crap”, but then realized if I feel good in my dress that’s all that matters.  Besides my fiance wouldn’t care if I showed up in my PJ’s to the ceremony as long as we’re getting married : )

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