Post # 1
I have decided that for my wedding I don’t want a veil. I was thinking maybe a tiara instead. My Fiance says that I cannot wear a tiara because the day isn’t just about me, it is about him too. He says I act like too much of a princess. What can I do to make him understand that it is just a headpiece and it IS my day?
Post # 3
Whenever it comes to the whole bridal look I say go with what makes you happy. He is going to think you are gorgeous no matter what.
Post # 4
@feleciaq: He really said that? I’d be slapping him!
Not that it isn’t his day too, but telling you that you shouldn’t wear something you want to wear… Seriously out of order.
Post # 5
Tell him he can wear a tiara too if it matters that much.
Post # 6
@MrsPinkPeony: I totally agree!! You have to chose what you want to wear yourself… 🙁
Post # 7
Compromise and go for a sparkly headband or a facinator or a cute set of barrettes? It doesn’t necessarily have to look like a princess tiara, but be something sparkly.
Also, make sure he knows what a tiara “is”… it sounds silly, but I think lot of guys hear/see ONE thing, and assume ALL things are like that.
Post # 8
For the record, I agree that the OP deserves to be happy with how she looks on her wedding day. I think it’s worth mentioning, however, that the bride often gets a lot of say in the groom’s attire for the wedding day so, in general, it’s not totally out of the question for the groom to have an opinion. 🙂
Post # 9
@Gemstone: No, but unless she’s vetoing something he wants to wear he shouldn’t be vetoing what she wears.
Post # 10
@SpecialSundae:well, no disrepect to the OP, but the statement “he says I act too much like a princess” is a little loaded? Maybe he just wants to have a little input? I think a tiara is a weird thing to veto, for sure, but there has to be another reason that he’s saying that?
Either that, or I’m off the mark and he does deserve a good smack?
Post # 11
Okay first of all what he said was rude!! Second I would just stress to him its just a headpiece it has no other significance. If its going to cause major problems do a different sparkly headpiece. It is your day but it is his too.
Post # 12
yeah…I wouldn’t assume that he’s being a jerk with that statement, but if I were you, I’d think about that statement a bit more…. (ARE you acting like everything is all about you?)
Post # 13
It’s your day, carry yourself like a princess and wear your tiara!
Post # 14
It sounds like you might be acting a little too much like a “princess” in situations other than ones about the tiara. I believe it’s supposed to be a day that you share with your future husband, not just a day that belongs to you… otherwise you would be marrying yourself.
I do think it’s worth talking with him more about the tiara, though. If it’s what you really want to wear, I don’t think it’s unreasonable.
Post # 15
@kimbean: Agreed. He might be envisioning a huge crown, while you might be envisioning a little crystal tiara.