(Closed) Fiance doesn’t want to wear a ring

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you think fiance should wear ring or get my initial tattooed on ring finger?
    Wear Ring : (104 votes)
    71 %
    Initial tattoo : (11 votes)
    8 %
    Wedding band tattoo : (31 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    What about getting 2 rings for him?

    A stainless steel ring for while he’s working, and the nicer one for when he’s not.

    That way if something does happen to the less expensive ring, it won’t break the bank to replace.

    I don’t really love the tattoo idea.

    Post # 4
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    1486 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would just get an inexpensive ring so that it isn’t a big deal if something happens to it.  He will get used to wearing it… 

    Post # 5
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    1003 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Wedding band tattoos have become super popular: http://www.google.ca/images?q=wedding%20band%20tattoos&um=1&ie=UTF-8&source=og&sa=N&hl=en&tab=wi&biw=1024&bih=499

    That is just the google search link. Have a look around.

    Also Titanium and Tungsten are very strong metals that have become very popular for wedding bands. He should go down to a jewlery store and at least have a look at them and try them on. I know Fiance was iffy on the idea until he went down, asked questions and tried things on. He works with his hands a lot so it was important to get something he would like.

    I mean ultimately it is his body and he knows what he is going to feel comfortable doing. Really you can only guide him into making the decision he wants to make.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Mine tried saying he’s never liked wearing rings and finds them uncomfortable. Funny, so do I, and I never wear rings as accessories, but I still wear my GD engagement ring and will wear my band! It’s not about comfort, it’s about respect, and he’s wearing one. My Future Mother-In-Law told me his dad said the same thing; when she and Future Father-In-Law got married he said, “I’d just as soon not wear a ring,” and she said, “Then I’d just as soon not marry you.” LOL.

    Tell him to take it off while working on cars and put it back on afterward. No man ever died of discomfort from wearing a ring!

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I think he’d get used to a ring. My dad hasn’t taken off his wedding ring in 40+ years of marriage. It’s a gold ring that belonged to his father and it’s still fine through decades of oil changes, home rehabs, racquetball games, etc. (my father is VERY active and a do-it-himselfer).

    I don’t love the tattoo idea either. A ring tattoo is one thing but just an initial is odd IMO.

    Post # 8
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    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Fiance is not able to wear his ring at work. He wants to get it tattooed because he has a dangerous job and “would hate to die without my ring on”

    Seriously. Morbid, much?

    Post # 9
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    436 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    when he is working just have him leave the ring at home. and when yall go out that is when he should wear the ring.

    Post # 10
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    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Is the reason he doesn’t want to wear the ring bc it will get dirty and possibly scratched? Or because it could be dangerous? My Fiance works in construction and with a metal band around his finger there is a possibility that it could get caught on something and he could loose his finger. (eek!) So to avoid that he got a tattoo & we got him a band which he will wear on weekends or when he is not working.

    The tattoo on his finger is of an anchor. We have a sailboat so the nautical theme fit for him. I will say however that Fiance has many other tattoos also so the one on his finger isn’t out of place.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We got my husband a tungsen ring which is pretty cheap and very indestructable.  He wasn’t too keen on wearing it but ever since the wedding he hardly takes it off.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @FallBride2B: If they had my FI’s small girlish size, I am sure they can find something for your guy, for ordering that is. 😉 Nothing quite fit my Fiance at the jewlery store, he is a size 5 but I think it was the chance just to see them, feel them and ask questions that made him feel ok getting a ring. 

    Post # 14
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    4311 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My husband is a car guy.  A painter, to be exact.  He also does body work.  He leaves his ring in his car when he goes into work or puts it in his pocket.  When he’s done he puts his ring on.

    If he is expecting you to wear your wedding band, then he should be prepared to do the same.

    Post # 15
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    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @caszos: my husband did the same thing!

    Tungsten rings are pretty durable and would stand up to the test of him working on cars. Is there an option of him getting a ring tattooed on his finger rather than just an M? That way, it actually looks like a ring.

    I just wouldn’t be comfortable with my husband not wearing a ring at all.

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @FallBride2B: WHat about instead of your initial, he gets a tattoo of an actual band? That’s what my Fiance is doing- we bought him an inexpensive tungsten ring for the ceremony & he plans to get the tattoo on our honeymoon. I am completely fine with this, actually like the idea alot because he can’t take it off! I’ll wear my rings, but I’m debating getting his name or our wedding date tattooed to the underside of my ring finger….

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